What would you do?

Breastfeeding
Pros:
- Better for baby
- Don't have to pay for formula
Cons:
- I'm probably gonna get touched out
- Worries, what if I don't produce enough, latching etc
- I want my partner to be able to handle feeds too
- I'll be going back to work after 9m

Formula
Pros:
- Already know what I'm doing
- Dad can do feeds
- Feel like this will be easier when baby starts nursery at 9m but don't know.
Cons
- More expense

Also please give me more pros/cons for both as that might help me make a decision 😅

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I personally chose to formula feed both my kids, i always debated breastfeeding and kind of regret not trying but when it really came down to it i knew that formula was the best decision for me and my family. What i would recommend is plan to breast feed and formula feed, so buy some maternity bras and button up pjs for the hospital and when you first come home but also pack some formula to take and just see how you feel when it comes to it, you do also have the options of pumping or breast feeding for the first few weeks/months and then swapping to formula later on x

I recommend trying breastfeeding due to the nutrition it provides baby. If it goes well you can pump and store milk for dad and daycare to be able to feed baby.

Pros for breastfeeding. The bond you have with baby cuddling all the time is incredible. The little hands stroking you as they nurse. The eye contact and the unlatching just to give you a smile before relatching. The ease of NOT having to sterilise bottles and pack bottles and formula when going out. Just leaving the house with your baby and your boobs.

Cons for breastfeeding are for me, just that it's tiring. I get up once a night to pump, even if my daughter sleeps through. It was stressful in the beginning with establishing a supply but consistency is key. Baby will cluster feeding early on ans that really gets your supply going so I didnt have any issues and the majority of people do have enough supply to breastfeed if they wish to.

If your husband helping feed is a worry, you can pump so that he can give the baby breastmilk in a bottle if you need sleep or for work hours. It also helps with transition. There's things you can eat and stuff to help production (i did for my first). I also started giving her a light mix of breastmilk and formula after 2 months on occasion to help my stress on supply (but I also never pumped) I planned on only breastfeeding until she turned 1 but she naturally stopped at 11 months. I plan on doing the same with my upcoming boy. Hope this helps at least a little lol

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