Struggling

11 months postpartum and struggling to feel happy. I am working full time from home (I hate my job) and I am also full time childcare. We don't have a village. My husband is sore and tired when he gets home. A lot of times, it's just negative energy in the home. I'm also expecting again. Im so overwhelmed and tired. What can I do? I dont even have time to ride my horses anymore...

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That really sucks! I'm sure most of that stress is staying home with kids and working. Once I was done with my maternity leave I worked about 2 more weeks and quit and became a full time mom. It takes a decent amount of stress out and being fully involved with my daughter actually does improve my day

I also quit my job and stay home with my littles - I miss having work and a schedule and work friends but it is nice to have less stress and focus on childcare. Our finances are much tighter on one income but it is worth considering ...or even working part time instead of full time.

Also, this is just a season and one day you'll have time to ride your horses again. We can do hard things for a short amount of time. This is what I keep reminding myself 😅 you are not alone, feel free to reach out if you want someone to talk/vent with!! Big big hugs!

I want to quit so bad but I cant! My husband would have to work 2 full time jobs for me to quit. Then he'd never be home and only get like 4 hours of sleep

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Unacceptable?

My 42 year old husband went out last night for his friends 40th. Its now almost midday and not only is he not home, but hasn't even contacted me. Im 6 months pregnant and we have a 3 year old. He goes over to that friends every friday night fot a few drinks and stays until usually 2. A couple times hes come home at 630 but never this late. Never apologises. But this feels like blatant disrespect. Im starting to suspect cheating too... what do you guys think?

Am I falling out of love with my husband or Post partum hormones?

Hi guys. I’ve been feeling really shit. I’m not sure why but recently I’ve been feeling as if though I might not love my husband as much anymore?

He hasn’t exactly done anything terrible. I don’t know, I feel like I hate him most of the time and just want him away from me. And then when I do try and make sure we’re good and put the effort in, that’s when he pisses me off even more; as if he’s giving me a reason not to like him?
We don’t have regular sex if I’m honest, as he doesn’t have that high a sex drive than I do. But even when we do have sex, it’s quite boring??

I understand marriage isn’t a fairy tale and we’ve been married for nearly 5 years, but I just don’t know how to feel right now.

We’ve had a conversation about this, and I guess he tried to reassure me that he does love me and is happy. But idk.

I want to be yearned for and stuff, but I just don’t feel that from him?

Has anyone else been feeling this way at all? What do I do?

I need someone to talk too

These past 3 days especially today. Have been hard. I really need someone that’s not my mom to talk to right now.

My husband has been mad at me for 3 days now. And I don’t know why. I asked and apologized for things I thought it would be.

Today my son hit his face really hard on a table leg. Call doc they said he fine. I’m still going to go see a doc tomorrow just in case. But nothing I do or that has been said to me helping me claim down. My husband will not talk to me about it. And I know once he see it he only going to get more upset with me. I just need a hug and someone to talk to me. I’m a mess right now. And I’m worried like crazy about my baby.

Feeling so stupid and scared

I feel like i can't tell my husband no. I can tell him I don't want to but for some reason it always keeps going and eventually I give up and try to enjoy it as much as i can. Hes not a bad guy but I have a really hard time resisting him when it comes to it. The problem is I am only 25 days postpartum and we've had sex 3 times already. I know my body isn't ready and I've told him as much. All he does is tell me he'll be gentle. Anyways he finished inside yesterday and I have been a nervous wreck. I am not on birth control yet since i haven'tbeen to my 6 week appointment yet. I got pregnant with our current newborn while breastfeeding and not even having 1 period after our toddler. This most recent pregnancy was very hard on me physically and our newborn is dealing with health issues. I am so scared to get pregnant again. I know its not likely that ive ovulated yet since I am breastfeeding still and haven't stopped my postpartum bleeding yet, but i am still stressing out.

Daytime meals

How much is everyone's 8 month old eating?
I'm doing a mix of what we eat and pouches but I never know if a full pouch is too much?
Just wondering what everyone else is doing? She has main and then something pudding like e.g fruit or yoghurt. Sometimes maybe a snack or biscuit after. She has this between 5/5.30 and then 7oz at 7.15 for bed

Staycation with 6 week old

Am I completely mad taking my 6 week old on a staycation to Cornwall?

Any travel tips welcome 🫶🏼