Feeling so stupid and scared

Take a plan b and your anxiety will probably go away

I think you need to tell him exactly what you’re feeling and what he made you feel when you’re still freshly postpartum. This is a serious issue. It’s very scary. I know you want to focus on your newborn. So just take a test in 2weeks and if it’s negative keep testing until like 5weeks. They have those like 100 test strips on Amazon I think. After 5 weeks I’m sure you would know by then. And maybe tell him you’re dead serious you want to wait cause you don’t feel well and you want to focus on the children you already have. I’m really sorry.

I really feel for you ❤️ Especially after such a difficult pregnancy, I can understand why you’re so scared of getting pregnant again.
What worries me most is you saying you tell him you don’t want to, but it keeps going until you give in. You don’t owe him sex, and your no should be respected. Saying he’ll be gentle doesn’t change that.
Please don’t assume breastfeeding or still bleeding means you can’t get pregnant. I’d contact your GP or a sexual health clinic ASAP about emergency contraception, as some options are time-sensitive. You don’t have to wait for your six-week appointment.
You deserve time to heal and to feel listened to. ❤️

What concerns me most is that you’ve said you don’t want sex, yet your husband continues until you give in. “I’ll be gentle” doesn’t change that your ‘no’ should be respected. You don’t have to physically resist for it to count. ❤️ He needs to understand consent better, this is totally selfish of him !!
Breastfeeding and postpartum bleeding don’t guarantee you can’t ovulate, especially since you’ve previously become pregnant while breastfeeding. Emergency contraception may still be an option, so contact a pharmacist, GP, sexual health clinic or NHS 111 asap.
You’re recovering and caring for a newborn with health issues. You deserve to have your boundaries respected. ❤️

Having enthusiastic consent is important, being bugged in to saying yes because of being wore down, is not a yes in my opinion. I was married for 12 years and hated so many years of giving in to just shut him up. Praying that my baby would wake up so i could get up and away. It was trauma for me. If he knows how upset you are about it and does it anyways, that's not respect or love imo. Maybe couples therapy can help?

Your no should be final. It worries me that you’re feeling stupid, and that you think this is your fault. You just gave him *another* baby- recently at that. You do not owe him sex, I don’t care how gentle it is. Just because he isn’t yelling at you and forcing you physically, does not mean that he isn’t taking advantage of you. I know you say he’s a good guy, and I don’t know him to fully argue with you, but even if he’s a good guy, this is not a good thing he’s doing. That’s my honest thought. This is causing you deep physical and emotional distress, and finishing inside you is the cherry on top- it’s unnecessary.

You absolutely need to put your foot down and tell him no, and keep the no. If he has problems with you telling him no after you firmly explain the situation, then this unfortunately becomes a deeper relationship problem that will need to be worked out. Your health is important, and if he isn’t recognizing that, then that’s an issue, period.

I think you’re putting your self in a dangerous situation. That I don’t think you should take lightly . I would have a talk with your doctor be honest that you had sex because you six weeks appointment he did cum in you with out protection. Come up with a care plan . Seek a support system

You can still ovulate. For some reason we are VERY fertile when we’ve had a baby- no period. My sisters are 14m apart. My mum thought BF was a birth control too, from what she heard. Oh she was very wrong. Another thing I see from the post is that he doesn’t RESPECT your body. If he broke his leg and Dr said he absolutely cannot drive until 6w, wouldn’t we tell him off if he grabbed the keys at 5w? Of course we would. Coz we want him to HEAL. My midwife warns every single partner in the birth room to not initiate sex until at least 6w, and he was the one reminded me of that when I tried at 5w. Please go get some emergency contraception. And a pack of condoms to not allow him to cum inside again. Your terms- no condom no sex. It’s a very simple ask.