Advice needed.
My husband and I got married 5 days ago. We have been together for almost 5 years and have an 18 month old. 3 days ago he went through my phone and saw texts from the first year of our relationship with my ex. I continued communication with him and met up with him for drinks one night. Nothing happened between us. I cut communication off that same year. My now husband wants nothing to do with me. I’m absolutely gutted that a younger immature version of myself has ruined my marriage 3 days in. I don’t know what to do.
I love my husband and my family and I will do absolutely anything to save us. My husband had already said he wants nothing to do with me and doesn’t see this relationship worth saving because of it. I have no one to talk to about this because I’m embarrassed that we just had everyone together to celebrate our marriage and now less than a week later I’m talking about the end of it.
My behavior back then did not carry over into my relationship further. I said goodbye to my past and went into a beautiful relationship of learning, growth and love with my now husband. How do I come back from this especially for our daughter? she doesn’t deserve this, she doesn’t deserve to see me crying everyday and her dad absent in another room. The 3 of us were so close, did everything together now he can’t even look at me. I’m sick.
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Just deleting my comment since nuance doesn't exist apparently. After all the years together and a child together, if he can't figure how to move past this, have a mature conversation, heal. Then the bullet is dodged. Y'all are too grown to be running away and hiding from a situation like this 🤷🏽♀️
Yea especially during such a vulnerable time you are already scared to trust and then someone your being loyal too isn’t over their ex in the sense that the ex was that important to you that you stepped out and even met up with them without telling them …. How can he believe nothing else happened. Especially because he had to go through your phone to find out … what else are you lying about or hiding he might be thinking
Hard on everyone …
Well unfortunately this is the consequence of not just texting an ex but meeting up with them while in a relationship.
How can he believe that nothing else happened ? I would feel the same especially finding this information out just after marrying... I would panic and question whether or not I had just made the biggest mistake
You have to give him time to come around and offer reassurance. Ask him what would help him recover from this ?
Let him process and then suggest couples therapy. If what he saw was a huge blow to him, then I would recommend you both check out this website www.affairrecovery.com. You can do a search for instances where you have one person in the dating relationship still exploring other options while the other two were dating. Well it’s a form of betrayal, it’s not marital betrayal. But I also think he needs to put this in perspective and you need to come clean about everything and say the truth as much as you need to if it’s true that you didn’t have any further contact with this person past the first year of you and your husband’s relationship.
This is a recoverable situation
Something from 4 years ago is insane makes me think he was looking for something to break it off. Maybe he just wants an easy out.
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My husband and I got married 5 days ago. We have been together for almost 5 years and have an 18 month old. 3 days ago he went through my phone and saw texts from the first year of our relationship with my ex. I continued communication with him and met up with him for drinks one night. Nothing happened between us. I cut communication off that same year. My now husband wants nothing to do with me. I’m absolutely gutted that a younger immature version of myself has ruined my marriage 3 days in. I don’t know what to do.
I love my husband and my family and I will do absolutely anything to save us. My husband had already said he wants nothing to do with me and doesn’t see this relationship worth saving because of it. I have no one to talk to about this because I’m embarrassed that we just had everyone together to celebrate our marriage and now less than a week later I’m talking about the end of it.
My behavior back then did not carry over into my relationship further. I said goodbye to my past and went into a beautiful relationship of learning, growth and love with my now husband. How do I come back from this especially for our daughter? she doesn’t deserve this, she doesn’t deserve to see me crying everyday and her dad absent in another room. The 3 of us were so close, did everything together now he can’t even look at me. I’m sick.
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