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Is it normal to feel this way?

Baby is currently 4 weeks old…I love her to bits but I DREAD her wake windows, as horrible as that sounds😖
She’s rarely content or happy when she’s awake. If she’s awake she’s crying or screaming. I actually get scared for when she might wake up because she gets herself in such a state.
Has anyone else felt this way? Or am I just an awful mum lol.

Im hoping this gets better once baby is a bit older & can interact more with things/play/laugh etc

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Common but please get extra support x

try headphones and go thru checklist. soothe them with music and holding . once asleep put down then pat until fast asleep then hold hand there until fully asleep. voila nappy baby <3

do you have a carrier for your chest? once baby falls asleep on me after feeding i wait 30 minutes to put down also

and keep burping this whole time

even gentle circles on the back helps. could be a gassy baby. is she colicy at all?

It is common so please dont think you’re a bad mum, definitely speak to your health visitor they can refer you to get so much support and if you can afford it then I’d recommend getting a private tongue tie assessment (health visitors and gps aren’t trained to check) and seeing an osteopath, also might seem weird but what are her poos like? x

Have you tried infacol? She might have trapped wind causing discomfort. My girls 10 months and atm she’s just screaming constantly just because she wants too and it’s so draining xx

It gets easier after week 6. I used to dread the wake windows as well… Huge change for us after week 6. We also gave her infacol before every feed

We had a very similar situation and it turned out our little girl had reflux. They feed so often at that age, so if feeding results in discomfort for them, they essentially spend most of their time being uncomfortable :( it’s definitely worth considering, and mentioning at your 6-8 week health check. It’s common but you don’t have to struggle ❤️

It can be coliec or anything like trapped wind, reflux, she's crying there's something going on. You'll have to try several things to figure it out. You got this ❤️ bouncy yoga ball was a life saver for me it calmed my baby down

You are not alone. I was anxious and dreading anytime she was due a feed or not sleeping as she screamed - even in the car seat. It does improve with time. Can a partner support you or a close by friend?

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