How to deal with the emotions when weaning?

Currently weaning/weaned my daughter and I wasn’t prepared for how sad and emotional I would feel😭. How do you navigate and get through it? I exclusively bf for 19 months, she is my first child. I just feel so sad that it’s over and everything makes me cry, and at the same time I needed it to be over as well. Help💔

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I could have written this myself! My son is 19 months, and I didn’t realize how emotional weaning was truly going to be. I wish I could give you some good advice, but I’m in the exact same boat. Hang in there ❤️

The hormone shift after stopping breastfeeding is what really got me this time. There’s really no practical advice other than give yourself some grace and space to work through these emotions. Naming the feelings helps some. But mostly understanding this is the season you’re in right now and it won’t last forever. Hang in there 🫂

I'm sorry you're feeling sad💔 I was super sad at first too. I stopped at 12 months and I wish I had gone on a little longer but I think 19 months is a good time to stop.

My advice for the sadness is just hang in there. Focus on new ways to bond with your baby like cuddling and reading books together. It's ok to mourn the loss of breastfeeding and to feel sad but the sadness is temporary. The sadness goes away. I definitely think there is a hormonal aspect to it. Once the hormones go back normal you kind of forget all about breastfeeding and you feel yourself again. You feel like you get your body back to yourself again and that does feel nice. Stopping breastfeeding doesn't mean you stop bonding with your baby, you just find new ways to feel close and bond 😊 Best of luck ladies 💕🙏🏻

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