Am I the only person that hasn't got a birth plan?

I didn’t have a birth plan with my first and I haven’t with my second. Going with the flow is the best option most people’s birth plans don’t go to plan anyway and then you end up disappointed x

My birth plan with my daughter was ‘get the baby out’. This time around I’ll specify types of pain relief I’d prefer: start with gas and air, pethidine if needed. I’m going to state that I’d preferably avoid a c-section, that I don’t mind having the injection to get my placenta out, and that I want one golden hour of skin to skin and will attempt to latch baby. Other than those things, the plan will still be ‘get the baby out’ 😂

Honestly, I think with the current rates of birth trauma and disappointment in maternity services, you're best off doing some research and coming up with some preferences rather than going in blind and going with the flow.

Think about what types of pain relief you might like, they have different effects and side effects. Some are short acting and reversible, some aren't.

Think about whether you'd like continuous monitoring, is there the option for mobile monitoring etc.

If you want the injection to get your placenta out, if you want vitamin k for baby, if you want golden hour, breastfeeding and skin to skin etc.

It's not a plan like "I'm going to do this followed by this then the baby will come", it's more thinking about things that will help get you in the right head space to be able to cope and enjoy your labour and the delivery of your baby

My midwife never worked on my birth plan with me, in the uk this is very much an activity you drive - and even then going into labor no one even asked - you have to advocate for yourself and what you want.