Difficult Nursery drop offs

How old is little one??
When my little one started Nursey it was sooo hard, he was 2 when he started and it took atleast 6 weeks to settle on drop offs and picks ups.
Every day for 6 weeks I was questioning if we were making the right decision. But then one day it clicked, he did however go backwards a little bit after about 9 months of going (loads of staff changes) but now he’s in pre-school he’s had no issues settling in, hasn’t cried once.
It’s a difficult one to judge, on whether you’re doing the right thing!

Were almost a year into dropping my eldest off at nursery. My eldest kept telling me no yesterday. As in no he didnt want to go, no he didnt want leo to go (younger brother), no he didnt want to get dressed. Hid under a blanket in my bed. Then hid in their room i dropped him in. Took leo outside as his group was outside and his key worker has 4 nos in under 10mins. Getting dressed is usually a battle and on top of it leo hasnt long started so is in a crying stage of being left

My little boy had difficult drop offs for a few years and many many days he fought so much we couldn't get him into the car seat once he was too big to be physically forced. I did force him quite a bit as nursery kept saying he was fine once I left but then he started to shutdown...like refusing to get out of bed on weekends and get in the car to even go to the park. We think he is autistic but we are in the UK and no one will believe us that he has these meltdowns over every and the waiting list for an assessment is 8 years long. I've stopped forcing him that much now (he is 4) partly because I can't physically do it and partially I've come to accept that he really just can't cope with it. He comes home and screams for hours and can't do basic things like eating, toilet or bathe. Last night he soiled himself multiple times in bed because he was too dysregulated to realise he needed to poo. I've stopped working because now it's one day on and one day off even when he is only going part time.