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So I have a situation where my kid birthday is coming up and I had plan to give every kid in class gift bags but it was brought to my attention that one out of the whole class is just being mean, same as all parents call their child beautiful. And to have another kid call them ugly more than once as an outburst it definitely bothers me because my child super nice to everyone, literally a no problem starter at all. I’m pretty sure it has to do with my child probably being super friendly with everyone like I’m saying everyoneeeeee gets excited to see my kid but this one kid. Which I’m not saying she needs to I’m totally fine with her not but the name calling when I taught my child that that’s not nice to do and have someone do that to them idk.. I NEED OPINIONS are we still giving that kid a bag or not because I DONT KNOW AT THIS POINT. Mind you they 4/5 year olds 😭😭😭 like do we give gifts to people who are mean to us? Because it’s a child?

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At 4/5 that is definitely mimicking behavior. The child is seeing someone behave that way and is repeating it for whatever reason. If you’re giving to the whole class you need to give to the whole class. These aren’t teenagers they’re preschoolers. Yes the child’s behavior was inappropriate but to go as far as being petty and not giving a goodie bag is childish. If you don’t want to celebrate with that child I would set up another time with the other kids you would like to include. But doing it at school isn’t the way. I’m also 90 percent sure the teacher would say something. Class rooms are very much all or nothing the teacher wouldn’t let the other kid be excluded

Have you spoken to the teacher or that kid’s parent? Maybe if an adult figure that she is comfortable around talks to her about her behavior it might stop? Since she will be aware that her behavior is being watched? Idk, it’s a hard situation.

Hola .. my opinion... the gifts allways have to be for all , the Kid can feel separated and thats gonna be worst , the Kids repeat all they see on that age [carefull whit that] , you have to be MORE then NICE and KIND, but defenatly something is happen... sorry for my english not my first language

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