No help at home!!
Me and my partner have a 20 month little girl and all live in the same house. We have had arguments so many times before as I get to a point of exhaustion and overall lose my shit with everything from doing pretty much 100% of the childcare.
He is in the army and travels further to work than I do. He commutes around 1 hour 15 each way and spends most of his time in the gym if he isn’t at work.
He does some of the housework and cooks sometimes but I do ALL nappies, bedtimes, bath times etc. I also end up eating my dinner cold to make sure our daughter eats (we all eat at the table together) I also do drop offs and pick ups every day as I also work full time.
I am at the point where I am beginning to resent him. He always say “she’s a mummy’s girl” and “she won’t settle for me” WHICH IS BECAUSE HE DOESNT DO ANYTHING!!
I’m not sure if I’m after advice or just need to rant. But I am truly reaching my limit and I am honestly ready to walk away as I do everything on my own as is it!
Our daughter is going through a clingy stage at night and is waking several times a night (which I also do all of the night feeds and always have) where I have to be touching her for her to fall asleep. So I am EXHAUSTED!! I have explained to my partner that I am trying to stick to my guns and keep her in her cot and his only help is “shall I go in the spare bed” so I can put our daughter in our bed.
I am so so frustrated, upset and angry about everything at the moment!
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Hand her to him and tell him ‘I’m going to the gym - let me know when dinner is ready’ and leave? Or something like that… maybe give him advanced warning, or ask WHICH day this week he’ll be cooking dinner and doing bed time so you can go to the gym (or whatever you would like to do). He will probably only REALLY figure things out when you’re not there as back up.
So what has helped with my husband (he travels an hour 20 mins to and from work) we rotate nights for bedtime. He does M,W,F, and Sat and I do the other nights. I work from home and my daughter is not in daycare or anything at the moment, my sister does help during the day. But if there are overnight wake ups I take care of that since my husband has a long commute.
We both do tasks with bath time unless one of us isn’t home. This helps balance out bath time and allows us to get through it easier.
Hose work and cooking is also split and changes as things come up. He is mostly responsible for the dishwasher, his clothing, helping tidy up toys, food shopping and some other things. Cooking we split. We meal prep for the week for lunch and dinner. So we choose which meal we want to take care of and we cook for the house hold.
As far as the gym goes my husband and I both go to the gym at least a few times a week as something we do for ourselves. Gym for us is flexible and is week to week
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