How to cope?

I received some crummy news today at my ultrasound. It’s been a day so far of tears and anxiety and I just feel so numb. I don’t want to make this post sound super depressing as baby still has a heartbeat and her weight and growth look pretty good so far but being high risk just moved to urgent and severe high risk and baby needs some intense monitoring because if something happens, baby can bleed to death and be a stillborn so of course all this information has had me an emotional wreck.

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How far along are you ??

I’m sure it must be so difficult. Nobody can imagine the pain, but may God keep you and your baby and your family healthy and safe and try to keep calm and patience. You can go through this and one day or baby will come out in this beautiful world, and be in your arms soon.

Try to talk to somebody whom you feel can understand. You can help the Take the edge of.

Contact your health providers/midwives ect

They will all have contacts for you to find professional people for tou to talk to as i imagine the news is quite traumatic to hear, there is phone lines and online chats around that you can contact and talk to.

Just try to take it easy one day at a time do some self care and take your time to come around to the news

You probably wont see it now until babys born but i was high risk with both mine for diffrent reasons and looking back and hearing other peoples experiences i was so glad for all the extra monitoring and having scans every 2 weeks ! I have so many ultrasounds of both my babys as they always took their time to get the images, i got to hear their little hartbeats even more and i was reassured every step of the way

Me personally would totally reach out to a Pych and a therapist id talk to someone weekly and also start finding one who can prescribe god for bid this is very scary an im very sorry you are dealing with this I would say make sure your exercising a lot because its good for you and baby and will help regulate your endorphins moods etc. praying for you

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