Babying

I feel like my fiancee (kids dad) wants to and is babying our kids just a bit but am I being too strict/harsh

We have an almost 3.5 year old and an almost 2 year old (I know they’re still little)
I will say I do most of the parenting and find my kids pretty easy when he’s not around but when I’ve left them alone with him their behaviour (mainly our 3 year old) so whiny and annoying after and they are typically not whiny or annoying kids especially for toddlers I feel part of the reason is he will just sit them in front of the tv to make it easier for him or he’ll let them watch him scrolling in his phone these things annoy me as our 3 year old especially struggles after for days (more aggressive with her brother, broken sleep)
But then he also feeds them and tells me I should be feeding them which we’ve always done baby led weaning and ofc I fed them when they were babies but they’re at a point now where they can feed themselves, use forks and spoons and even butter knives
He’ll put our 3 year olds shoes on for her even though she can do it herself
He pretty much gives them what they want whenever they want even if it isn’t the healthiest option or they haven’t been listening
I feel like although it isn’t often if it does become a regular thing it makes my life harder in the long run as I’m with them most of the time

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Nursery for my toddler when I have my newborn or not?

My toddler will be 2.5 years old when my next baby is born. She hasn’t gone to nursery yet and always had a nanny however she has been “ready” for nursery since she turned about 2. I want to send her but I am so worried about her getting sick while she is adjusting to nursery and passing that on to the newborn who will have a much weaker immune system.

Has anyone else sent their toddler to nursery for the first time while having a newborn and how did you manage all the illnesses/sicknesses they get while settling in?

Christmas 🎄🎁

Any ideas on what I can buy my daughter for Christmas she will be 6 months old? I know she won’t understand but it’s her first Christmas and I want to make it special and buy her some sensory / development toys 😊

need to rant

my fiancée works full time in hospitality so his shifts aren’t consistent, some are late some are early but how does this mean he doesn’t do anything around the house or even help with baby. he’ll only take my son when he’s sleeping and whilst he’s sleeping i tidy the house and as soon as baby wakes he passes him back to me. i’ve tried to tell him how it makes me feel and it just turns into an argument. i don’t even see him anymore as he’s always playing games with his friends. i feel alone in a relationship. i’m so tired

Friends with another mum but their child is naughty

I’m friends with a mum from church and we both have 3 year olds and we’ve both applied for the same schools for them to go to next year. She has a son and I have a daughter and he’s very naughty. He will make other children cry/ he won’t share toys he’s playing with or he will shout when my daughter says hello to him he will just look away and say no! They have a play kitchen at church and the other day he was playing there and when my daughter went to join in he basically guarded the whole kitchen and toys with his arms so that she couldn’t get to it. Any tips on this? Firstly how to deal with kids who don’t share with your child and how to communicate this to my daughter. Also, would you be friends with a mum if their child misbehaved? It’s not terribly bad but I want to prepare myself now that my daughter will be getting ready for school on how to deal with things like this without making it into a big deal. Bearing in mind they are 3! (Nearly 4)

Opinions about daycare

At first, my husband and I both agreed that we wouldn’t send our children to daycare. But my son has a bit of speech delayed and we are on the waiting list for Headstart. I brought it up with my husband to enroll our child in daycare due to the fact that it has been very difficult to make friends or to meet people who have kids about his age.

Babysitting

Hey girls. So my partners little sister is 16 she’s been desperate to babysit my girl who’s 16 months old. I’ve put it off and off as my baby’s quite clingy doesn’t even like me leaving the house when she’s with her dad I only really like my mum or my partner having her as she’s used to that and when we’ve been round his dads house etc and his sister has tried to take Erin off to help us out Erin just kicks off so bad and doesn’t want to leave us. Anyway we went round one night and his dad and step mum was saying we need to arrange a date for Mika to look after Erin for a couple of hours and we will go to the pub down the road from you (not drinking btw) so they’re going to come to the house and then we’re going to leave and go up the road so we can come back if needs be but I just know Erin’s going to absolutely freak when she knows we’re gone and my mum guilt is killing me I do not want to do it at all but I just don’t have the heart to say no or cancel. We went out for a meal last week all of us and we got a message from partners dad to say could you message Mika directly to thank her she has a confidence issue and thinks you guys don’t want her to babysit Erin at all and then said can you message her and say you thought she was great with Erin tonight and that you’re more than happy for her to babysit. Don’t get me wrong she is good with her but I just don’t think it’s fair they’re putting this pressure on us and the reason she’s probably getting the thought we don’t want her to babysit is because we don’t want her to 😵‍💫 what do you guys think? I’m not going to be able to relax at all tomorrow and I’m dreading it so much. I know I shoukd stick up for myself but it’s such an awkward situation