Advice needed

Me and my partner live with his mom and his little sister who both always get ill around the end of october and im due on halloween with my first. His little sister does not cover her mouth when coughing or sneezing and his mom is demanding first cuddles with our baby boy when he comes home after being born however she gets ill faster then anyone else in the house and stays ill the longest and his little sister has a habit of walking around the house with ger phone on full volume screaming and shouting when playing games with her friends whilst only being 8. I dont want her waking up the baby when he is down for a nap and she has the worst attitude and my partners mom doesnt do anything about her screaming or when she has attitude so me or my partner ask her to quiet down and have explained that when the baby is here she can not be going round the house screaming and shouting yet she is still screaming at full volume and refuses to do as she is told by me my partner or their mom. What advice does people have for me about protecting my baby from illness and what can i do about my partners sister screaming and potentially waking the baby once he is born. Also my partners mom has already said that people will be coming over and they will all want to see the baby but me and my partner dont want him passed around like a parcel. Any advice for that will be great.

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Honestly it looks like a headache... I would find my own place. You can't control their behavior and people who come or not there as it is not your place. Of course you can set boundaries that people don't get to cuddle baby and so on but sounds like your MIL is setting her rules for your baby too... You gonna have to fight a little at least for her to respect your boundaries. But for all the rest you just gonna experience a nightmare during pp as you can't control them or decide so much. Find your place asap

You will have to manage it as best you can. Little aister is that little. Kids are always germy and yes being older she should have better hygiene but kids are still super spreaders.

Manage it as best you can, when you are in a hoise with so many people someone is bound to get ill. Baby will also get colds at some point regardless. Just keep up the basic practices of cleanliness.

Also grandma can hug him and of course if she is ill just avoid it during that period. Pretty self explanatory.

Don't stress yourself, so much to worry about, don't stress yourself too much.

I personally wouldn't worry about the noise as babies will adapt to those conditions. I wish I had a louder household with my first as my daughter is a super light sleeper now 😅 You will grow a backbone once your baby is here and you'll be able to set your boundaries on baby being held. I literally screamed at my mum when she kissed my first baby after I just had her she was so shocked by my response she didn't do it again 🤣

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