Rant!!

ℕ𝕖𝕩𝕥 𝕥𝕚𝕞𝕖, 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕤𝕒𝕪,"𝕀'𝕞 𝕘𝕠𝕟𝕟𝕒 𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕒 𝕤𝕙𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕣. ℍ𝕖𝕣𝕖'𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕓𝕒𝕓𝕪." ℍ𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕙𝕚𝕞 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕓𝕒𝕓𝕪 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕒 𝕤𝕙𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕣.

do you have a bouncer chair? or even the car seat.. i have a picture of my baby sat outside the bathroom door in a car seat whilst i showered.. not ideal but i was in the exact position as you! i’d change her nappy, make sure she had a big feed the place her in the bouncer (i did the car seat when it was the only place she’d settle) and then did the quickest shower in the world - seems crazy that you have to do it that way but you need to look after you - not making excuse for you partner but some first time dads just don’t see it! don’t explode just try get yourself in a calm position and then explain to him what you need from him! xx

I would hand the baby over and say your turn. I’m taking a shower and walk away. If I wanted to nap because I never ever get to sleep in I literally hand the baby over and walk away. That’s only if I’m overly exhausted.
With my daughter I did have a bouncer like the others said too but I like my water super hot so she’d get too hot so I put her outside of the door instead of inside the bathroom.
But your point is you want a peaceful shower not a baby with you! Tell the guy you need time to yourself too. If the guy can’t give you that than you’re better off by yourself like you’re doing already.
Good luck mamas

My husband really struggled for a long time, like he had no clue what to do and was stuck in an overwhel bubble. I was at breaking point more than once. I felt exactly the same that I may as well be on my own, I told him, he didn't listen. Eventually I just broke and made him listen, I said I felt like i was being taken for granted, I cant keep doing this and it would be easier on my own. He was heartbroken that he didn't see it before himself and things are much better now.

i feel like i’ve said loads under this post but im fresh out of this and im so passionate about it and how as much as women think it’s supportive to say ‘you deserve better’ and telling you your better off alone it’s actually so damaging! your anonymous but please feel free to message me if you need to vent and get logical, constructive and experienced replies from one mama to another! xx

He absolutely SHOULD be connecting the dots but since he isn’t… you may need to be more direct, like ‘I haven’t showered in 4 days. Will you put the LO to bed? I need to go shower.’ Or maybe make a shower schedule/ who does bedtime schedule. Saying what you need and then following up with ‘when can you take baby so I can eat and shower’ could make him think more directly about your needs

I literally had to have my baby in the bathroom with me every night cause my husband was never home. In the bouncer outside the curtains. Sometimes you just got to do what you got to do. Men are clueless