nursery this young

My baby is currently 6 months old, and I’m already thinking about going back to work when he’s around 12 months.

Honestly, I don’t really want to leave him at nursery this young, but I also want to continue building my career.

For mums who started nursery around 1 year old — how did you find it? Did you feel like it affected your bond with your baby, or did you both adjust okay?

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I think 12 months is the new average age with the way life is now😩my baby is going to nursery at 10 months & potentially getting a childminder before that because I cannot take 10 whole months off work. I have my own business & have the rent to pay for it, the stat mat pay doesn’t even cover it. I’m dreading it too, but our babies are going to learn SO much, especially socialisation skills! So many kids that are staying home till the age of 5 are having lots of screen time. iPads & tvs to keep them busy. They won’t have this at nursery x

I returned back to work at 6 months and went with a cm by the time he started walking we were starting to think about nursery and wanted to improve his socialisation skills. My youngest I was a sahm and signed her up for preschool.

My first started her settling in sessions at 9 months and then was at her full planned days (3 a week) from 10 months. She honestly settled really quickly and enjoyed her time there. Yes there were days that were harder for her but that's the same for home. I do think it's harder on the parent than the child to have to trust and leave them in someone else's care. I would suggest writing some questions to take with you to the settling in / stay and play sessions. Ask to see anything you want to know about (eg where do they sleep, where do the babies play who arnt sleeping etc) and that will really help. Mine is 2.5 now and still absolutely loves nursery and is really starting to make friends and become her own little identity. Don't worry that you feel conflicted, it's natural, and all through time people have relied on others to help with childcare. Before it would be family and village units, now we just have to pay someone to do the care now!

My LO started nursery 4 weeks ago and he turned 1 last week. It was really hard to leave him and I felt so guilty but he's actually thriving. He does painting activities, walks in the park and singing and lots of playing. It was hard for us both to adjust but he's always so excited when I pick him up and he's also gotten more affectionate. He goes 3 days a week

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