Cosleeping with 2?
How are we cosleeping with the whole family? If all of us stay in the same bed/room, my toddler wakes up when the newborn gets up.
My toddler can sleep through the night, so long as he has a body next to him. So, if either my husband or I have to get up to use the restroom or if we decided to stay up and watch a movie in the other room, or in this case, get up to tend to the newborn, my toddler will wake up within 30 minutes of us leaving crying and running out the bedroom looking for us.
Since our baby was born, my husband sleeps in the guest room with our toddler and I cosleep with the newborn in our room. But as you know, some nights are rough and when I have my husband come help me with the baby, our toddler will wake up shortly after. He is definitely becoming a tired mess and the past couple weeks going through a nap regression too.
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I must confess...my oldest slept with me and his baby brother till he was 10. THEN. He started sleeping alone. My youngest is now 5 and STILL sleeping with momma. Occasionally he'll go sleep with his brother and give dad a chance to sleep with momma lol
Oof! I wish I had an answer to this!
Right now, I am with baby in one room, and Papa is with toddler in another. When my husband is away, traveling for work-I have toddler in my bed, baby in crib. The baby wakes the toddler 50% of the time and she starts crying because she wants me to stay with her. So, I feed him in the rocker and she is standing at my legs. I have been able to convince her to go back to bed and I will meet her there soon, one time. I can only hope that as this continues, she will learn that I will come back to her.
If baby has an early morning wake - say 5/5:30—that woke her up, toddler will NOT go back to sleep; when she usually sleeps until 7. So, that sucks for everyone because she is cranky and so am I. Haha!
Right now, I fear that I have to keep our little one in a crib because it seems too challenging to have them together when they wake each other.
My son is 2.5 and my daughter is almost 7mo, and we have coslept all together since she was maybe 3weeks old. I feel like they both really need me as I'm the primary parent so it was important for me to find a way to make it work safely for all of us.
MY TIP: we sleep parallel to the headboard! Baby is between me and headboard so she has nowhere to fall (I have a wedge-shaped pillow that fills the small gap at the headboard so she won't get stuck anywhere), then it's my toddler and then my husband across the foot of the bed.
So I have each baby on either side of me :) and I love it!
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