Here for advice really, I'm going back to work early January.

I am struggling already money wise, with Christmas, kids birthdays, bills, cannot go back to work sooner as there's no spare money for childcare costs and I have no village outside of us and nursery would be the only way.
But I just feel really miffed and husband doesn't seem worried about it, he has a job but just over minimum wage. Still expects 50/50 split, worried I won't be able to afford Christmas until new year but said I would pay it back later date.
I just don't know what to do. I have spoken to him he seems to just laugh is he really just going to watch me go into debt willingly? Then the next breath he wants to do things like coffee etc on our days off together I don't have the money obviously. He is just tight fisted and hella selfish. My mum would help me but she is under mental health section. LIKE genuinely what should I do ? Sell all my stuff or ?

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Sour patch kid

How are we dealing with our Sour Patch Sons? My 2 yr old knows how to push all my buttons and I am getting to my wits end. He is tall for his age so he is able to get into everything. A lot of things in our house is locked up but I feel i shouldn't have to lock every cabinet, drawer, closest. I have a 2 month old and the toddler likes to get into things while I am feeding. I almost feel like I need to lock the toddler up. Also the toddler is acting out and when he does he does something bad he then acts all cute and kind. Or he knows he does something bad and just laughs when i get upset. He also tells me he is scared when he doesn't want to do something like go to bed, to the potty, eat dinner. Any suggestions are appreciated.

Men are lame

Do recently I joined two different Bible studies and I try to work on them throughout the week especially when my fiance is homeso he could sit with her if shes fussy and stuff like that yesterday i tried doing that maybe 5 minutes in he walks into the living room and says “shes being fussy and i donr know why
So i go in the room and change her diaper then go back to the living room maybe a minute later he comes back out and lays the baby down and says he has to go to the bathroom maybe half an hour later he comes back out of the bathroom and at this point ive givenup on doing my bible study work he walks right past me not even trying to take the baby back a little while later I tried to have a conversation with him and basically say lole how can i eventually go back to school or anything like that if when your home you cant even waych her for an hour so i can do a bible study he told me he doesn’t wanna spend his fays off watching a baby and he wants to do things he likes on his days off what do i do

Job change now I have 2 children. Currently a childrens social worker

I am a children's social worker so 36 hours full time 9-5. Background has always been kids ( sen worker in schools, teaching assistant, higher teacher assistant in an sen school, family support worker in social care SEN and now my current role as a children's social worker.

However now I have 2 kids 1 2.5yrs and a 2 week old. I want to just utilise the 30 hours funded childcare.

Unsure what jobs to go into. I have a lots of suggestions from AI but now overwhelmed because there's so many options.

Can anyone think of good roles to support my my kids doing term time hours at a nursery.

Somethings I was thinking of maternity support worker- 8pm-8am I was in hospital for a few days so got talking to staff who are parents and do this job because it allows them to do pick up and drop off without issues. I was thinking a school social worker ( hard to get) discharge social worker at a hospital ( never see these advertised though) im thinking something like a hospital because its 24 hours so can be flexible with shift pattern i think! Anyway any suggestions are welcome.

Nursery Christmas presents

If you work in childcare - a teacher / nursery practitioner. What Christmas gift you genuinely want?
I don’t want to buy my sons nursery baby staff a box of chocolate
Ideas please

PEPPA PIG WORLD

Has anyone been to Peppa Pig World / poultons park on their own with a toddler before? I want to take my 2 year old (25 months) but his Dad doesn't have any annual leave left, and it seems quite expensive to ask grandparents to come along.

Also, would you take a buggy? I fear having to chase after my toddler with a buggy in tow would be a pain, so thinking not?

Am I lazy? Am I a shitty wife?

Am I being lazy? I’m 23 weeks pregnant… cooking isn’t my favorite thing anymore I’m always just wanting to be in bed. I work from 4:30pm to 12:30am and get home after 1am. I end up going to sleep around 2-3am after showering and trying to force myself to sleep.

My husband has been complaining I rather buy food out than cook when I truly have no energy to cook. He said plenty of woman get up to make sure their husband has a meal to come home too. But I just don’t have the energy!

I used to wake up in the mornings (before this job) and make him breakfast and have lunch ready for him packed up at 5:30am for him to take to work. I stopped. Again just trying to get rest in. Idk how to find the energy or if I’m just making this up in my head. Definitely starting to make me feel like a shitty wife.

Also I did complain about dishes. Sunday night I cleaned the whole house, did All laundry folded, and cleaned the kitchen but left dishes in the sink thinking he would see how I did everything I just needed him to wash those dishes. He claimed I cooked made a mess and didn’t wash the dishes I used… you would think if I cooked he would meet me half way instead I’m being blamed.

How do yall do it?