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Stay At Home Mamas 🤍

Venting about Divorce process

My husband wants divorce, I feel like he only does because of his brother who keeps telling him to leave his family, my husband stepped out on our marriage not physically seeing anyone to my knowledge but it’s been a lot he cheated my entire pregnancy but I chose to forgive him and stay but then after our son was born he was sent on deployment less than a month of him being born, and then came back when he was almost 5 months and our son is now almost 7 months on deployment he gave me all these promises and when he got back we started therapy even tho he didn’t seem much interested and everything was going well until my friends sister found him on tinder and his excuse was we had got into a argument Friday because I found him commenting under some girls post and he started calling me insecure when he made me that way and I know it’s like thank god he’s freeing me from this torment, but like I feel like I gave up so much for him 2 under 2, up and moved from family for him. Like tolerated a lot of disrespect and he wants a divorce because he’s done. This man literal only complaint was that while I was high risk pregnant I couldn’t clean and cook the way I used too so he stepped out on our marriage. He said he felt like when he came home he would have to help me all the time and didn’t always come to the house spotless but we have a 2 story house with 3 beds and 3 baths, we have a lot of spaces and free rooms outside of those who also have to be cleaned while dealing with a toddler who literally makes it hard to keep everything clean and for a minute when he came back from deployment I worked full time because I finally could and I never came home to the house clean and still had to cook dinner every night. I didn’t hold that over his head or treat him like crap about it. Then he’s going to everyone and portraying like I’m the one who wants the divorce even tho I should but like our kids are so small like I don’t want to have to leave them with strangers like I don’t want to stop being there for them full time. But like I have no choice because he wants divorce and he’s done. I think for a while he’s been not wanting this even tho he kept telling me he did and love bombing the shit out of me but behind my back acts like he hates me and like I’m this terrible person. When all I started doing was actually speaking up for myself when I didn’t say anything and didn’t stand up for myself he loved me so much. Now it’s like oh you changed so much but like he caused itttt! I’m just so conflicted rn I’m only 23 with 2 kids now thanks to him persuading me twice to get pregnant back to back with all these promises of a hope in the future and now he’s basically asking me like hey can you and the kids go to your mom‘s or something so he can continue to be with other women and do what he feels like without a guilty conscience. Like I’m so hurt I literally wanna sue him for playing with my emotions!!! Because this man literally kept drilling in my head all I needed was him and now he’s saying fuck me after I literally gave up my life for him and his career always!!!