pumping

i’ve woken up this morning to my milk coming in. my bra was soaking and my breasts are so sore. i’ve got the momcozy pump but i don’t know how to pump. none of my family have pumped before so have no one to ask for advice. what settings should i be using please? i’m pumping and formula feeding as i struggled to breast feed.

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There will be instructions, do you have a bra strap so you dont have to hold it?

I only had one, with two settings, a massage and a suck setting.
I started with the massage setting for 3 minutes to get used to it, then 17 minutes of suction. Then the next breast.
I didnt have a strap so I did have to hold it, but it didnt hurt! I get it can be scary.

A tip, be sure your nipple and areola are as covered/inside as possible, and that theres no big gaps around the rim. It'll make it harder to suction, and sit up or your milk might spill out.
I made the mistake of leaning back, removing the cup and loosing a good two-three ounces over my lap 🥲🤦🏼‍♀️

Pumping is a bit trial and error I'm afraid. You have to be consistent with it so initially every 2-3 hours for the first few weeks, I found when bub sleeps the easiest time and as he gets bigger I'm having to do longer stretches to fit into the nap. Regarding your pump start it off on a low setting and see how it goes. I'm not going to lie, your nips will feel like they have been to war until they get used to it. If you feel like you can go up in settings then do so, but just remember higher suction doesn't always mean more milk. Measure your nips to check the flange is correct and you don't have to pump for 30 mins, most people empty after 15-20 mins so I would suggest try that first and see how you feel after. Also do at least 2 mins stimulation, don't just go straight to expression, it helps with getting the milk flowing! You've got this💪

Also your breasts are bound to be very sore, warm water and wearing a bra, and bra pads, during the day will help!
Try having a nice warm shower and gently massaging them, dont be afraid if you feel any small, ballish lumps, obviously check in with midwives or health visitors if you're worried. (Or any feeding experts!)

Sometimes before a pump if they were tender, I'd use a warm flannel.
And frozen/cold cabbage leaves on your breasts might also help with soothing and engorgement!

I know you've probably heard it all before sorry, hope you feel begger xx

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