Going insane?
Please please tell me what your doing with your 9 month olds throughout the day. My partner works 12hour shifts and it’s just so draining being in the house with a fussy 9 month olds who I have to try keep a nap routine for.
What are we doing to keep them entertained and us feeling like we have an inch of sanity. Cannot even go to toilet without him crying and it’s so draining. I want positive and supportive advice please :(
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I keep reminding myself its just a stage both my girls went through it too.
My boy has started recently and its so draining I honestly have to just let him cry sometimes I have other kids to look after and I know he's ok....he's in a safe play pen.
Otherwise I'll rotate him being in the the play pen, bouncer, seat chair in the kitchen with us or being held. Usually I'm on the toilet with the door open singing his favourite nursery rhymes 🤣🤣🤣
That's rough that your partner is away for so long!
I split my day into 3 chunks:
Morning (before first nap) is when she's most rested so I can actually do a tiny bit of housework before her first bottle as this is the time she's most likely to be content playing by herself and exploring.
First nap can start anywhere from 10-11.30 depending on how tired she is and is now lasting an hour.
I make sure we're both dressed and ready in the morning so that once she's finished her first nap we head straight out. This week we've been swimming, to a new soft play, to the supermarket with daddy in the car one day, met a friend today, and just for walks and might stop off in a cafe.
Second nap is usually 60-90 mins starting a bit later now around 3.30/4pm.
Between last wake and bedtime we're playing again, reading tonnes of books, having dinner together and we start bedtime at around 7.30pm.
My partner was away a lot over the summer (4 weeks in total) & splitting the day in my mind helped immensely. X
Also they have so much going on at this age - my daughter has been super fussy recently but over the past 2 weeks she's started eating properly, her first 2 teeth came through at the same time, she's started properly babbling, she's crawling, she's pulling herself up on things, clapping, and all sorts of other new stuff all at once 😂 pleased to report she's now much happier again!
* in the morning I'm playing with her and reading and singing, if I notice she's happy playing independently I step back and take a seat 😂
Walks in nature twice a day 🌳
Everything others have suggested but baby classes too. Family hubs there are actually quite a few out there! Free and paid ones etc
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