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Stay At Home Mamas 🤍

What to do

Me and my bf/baby daddy just got a place together. Figuring stuff out. Like schedules and that kind of stuff. I have been trying to work my butt off unpacking, putting away laundry, cleaning laundry, doing dishes. You know.. keeping everything clean. But I always get a comment about how there are still dishes in the sink. That our daughter and I used maybe an hour or two before he got home. And I wasn’t able to clean it then and there. Or condescending remarks on how I do laundry. My system doesn’t work for him. So I ask him calmly what would work better for him. And then I explain how my system works for me. It helps me remember. Between the three of us there is a lot of laundry. He changes his clothes like crazy. And I change our daughter’s clothes accordingly. Ect. Then last night I asked him to watch her while I go to the bathroom and switch around laundry. I hear a boom and a little cry and him yelling breathe. He fell asleep on the bed and she apparently crawled right off the bed and head first into the floor. I grabbed her and tried to calm her down so I can assess her. But she doesn’t calm down til she goes to sleep. Well I try to keep her awake so I can continue assessing her. We took her to the hospital. She’s fine. They rushed her back since she was unresponsive on the way there and when we got there. They watched her for 4 hours to make sure she was good. But as we are waiting he just kept leaving the room to go out to the car. While I’m there to take care of her. Which is fine I’m her mother. She wants me most of the time especially then. But near the last two hours he decides to sleep on the floor of the room while she’s asleep and had barely gotten any sleep the night before since she’s teething really bad. And sleep regressing. Which her and I have been dealing with and battling since we moved in a few weeks ago. So while he’s making comments about me not getting a lot done. I’m battling her wanting me since it’s a new house. Knew everything for her. She’s teething and sleep regressing all at the same time. So getting stuff done during the day isn’t a breeze as you can imagine. But he thinks it’s easy work being at home all day. With a baby girl who wants to be held all the time no matter what while trying to get EVERYTHING done. So what do I do? He literally just walked out of the house after being condescending towards me and how I do laundry. I wasn’t having it and he got annoyed at me for him being a certain way to me. He sometimes helps with stuff around the house. But he never watches he for me for very long. I ask for help but when she gets fussy he’s like “shut up” to the baby. And come and grab her and tell him to stop saying that to her. She’s just a BABY. He does “do well with crying” is what he told me. It’s supposed to be a team effort of taking care of her. Not all on me and he just watches. Like at lunch. He got to eat his lunch hot. And then when he was done. (He took his sweet ass time) he said he would hold her so I could eat. His dad called and was was paying more attention to that conversation while she’s wriggling out of his arms while sitting on the table. So I just put my food away and then took her back and walked her around while he did whatever. So much for me eating I guess.