Yourselves

Anyone else feel like they neglect themselves?
My babies get bathed every day or every other day and I feel like I just fully forget about myself like I end up having the quickest showers of my life as my boob monster doesn’t like being away from me for too long
Also kinda feel like I resent my husband over this as he regularly has a bath and will sit there for over an hour just chilling in the bath

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

Then tell him pick up the slack and let you have a bath. That’s his job, to give you time to recover after giving life.

💯 my husband puts a podcast on and has a shower! I struggle to wash my hair each week. I haven't used a dryer yet don't have time

Absolutely! I realised I hadn't had a proper shower for 4 days the other day, just a quick clean up 🤣
I am pretty open with my partner about how much easier he has it as he can just bath when he wants to.
He will take the baby if i ask him to. I just have to organise it and, as I also have a boob monster, in the evenings when he is in that can be more effort than it is worth.
I also cannot stand listening to the baby cry when I am in the shower, it makes me so stressed... I would rather have greasy hair.

Well some of this is you and not him

You don't like to be away, so you choose to have a quick shower.
You don't need to do that. You can hand over baby and take some time for yourself

in our community

5am wake ups

My 2 year old keeps waking up at 5am and is cranky and tired enough that she wants to go back to sleep but needs lots of cuddles. But because by this point sleep pressure is low she’s takes over an hour to resettle and fall back to sleep. By this point my alarm is going off 6:15am for work 😖😩
She used to wake up nicely around 7am and we’d all be a lot calmer and have breakfast together but now I’m either letting her sleep in a bit so she’s not over tired and there’s always a big rush to get out the door.

Any tips?

She goes to bed at 8-8:30pm naps around 1pm for 1h-1h:30m

Gut feeling

I’m trying to get my mind right, trying to find something to take my mind off this got feeling I’m having that something just isn’t right and when I have this feeling I’ve never been wrong. And I just want to not think about what it could possibly need cause I know once I find out it will not be pleasant. How do you shake your worries and this gut feeling?

Sleeping tips for newborns?

Hi moms!
How are your babies sleeping, especially those under 3 months?

My almost 8-week-old baby sleeps for hours in my arms, on my chest, or in the carrier, even while I’m moving around doing chores. But the moment I transfer him to his bassinet, he starts grunting, wiggling, and wakes up and starts crying.

I can spend up to 2 hours trying to get him to nap in his bassinet, and he still doesn’t fall asleep. By then, his next feeding is already coming up, and he hasn’t napped at all! 😩

At night, he sleeps much more peacefully when we bed-share. I’ve also noticed that he’s calm and quiet on my chest but much noisier and more restless in his bassinet.

I’d love to hear your real-life experiences!

What actually helped your baby sleep in their bassinet? Do you use a special swaddle, a particular type of bassinet, or any tricks to make the transfer easier?

Baby Sling Recommendations

I’m looking for recommendations on a baby sling instead of a carrier or wrap, I’ve got both which my baby loves especially when it comes to nap time but it’s a mission getting on and off and she is getting heavier. I just want something quick and easy and didn’t know these even existed! She will be 2 months so not much neck control yet but is 12lbs 14oz, so conscious it needs to be decent for proper support.

Any mums have a sling that they’ve used from this age by any chance that they’ve loved?

Sleeping through the night

Anybody else 2 month old sleep through the night? She has her last bottle at about 8 and then doesn’t wake until 5am anybody else similar?

Crawling!

When should I get worried that my son is showing little interest in crawling? He’s 8 months old? He’s great and sitting and has just started spinning when he sits but will refuse to go on his tummy.