Unhappy in new marriage
I got married in July it was perfect could asked for it any better. We’ve been together for 9 years and recently he’s distant on his phone all the time and feel neither of us make an effort. I’ve given up he doesn’t contribute to the jobs around the house and pays for nothing for our I son. He has a major debt problem which he’s working on and mental heath problems recently. So I’m un well worst I’ve ever felt plus think I might be very early pregnant. He not supported me shouted at me in middle of night as I couldn’t breathe so was making noise he screamed at me and said I’m selfish for not sleeping on the sofa. Eventually I went on the sofa couldn’t be in the same room as him. This morning I can’t even stand up I’m so dizzy and unwell but he asked me to get our son ready as he was too busy. Then he just left with our son to take him to my sisters. No goodbye nothing I addressed this and he just said what do I expect he doesn’t want to talk to me as he’s tired and it’s my fault he said I’ve caused this on purpose as I’ve called in sick so I can sleep all day and he has to work.
Usually we get on well with only a few little arguments here and there. We’re moving in with my parents next year so we can save and pay of his debt.
I just have a real strong feeling of resentment to him right now and it’s causing me massive anxiety.
I also have no one to talk to about it
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Um no. I can see all the red flags. This man thinks he has entrapped you. Now his real personality has come out. Please get the fuck away. He sounds abusive. If you have a child with him don’t put him on the birth certificate.
Post marriage, pregnancy and postpartum is when these men escalate their behaviour because they think you are stuck with them.
Show him you are not stuck with his misery. Please gtfo
Yeah best advice will be to seek
Professional support and advice. I notice you said all this happen more recently. Something is up . Idk yawl enough to help . I’ll seek help ASAP especially since it seem like he’s dealing with mental health issues. I know from experience men can be snappy when stuff like that is going on . He could be under some kinds of stress . But seems like he needs to work on his mental health issues and you going to need professional help as well .
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Unhappy in new marriage
I got married in July it was perfect could asked for it any better. We’ve been together for 9 years and recently he’s distant on his phone all the time and feel neither of us make an effort. I’ve given up he doesn’t contribute to the jobs around the house and pays for nothing for our I son. He has a major debt problem which he’s working on and mental heath problems recently. So I’m un well worst I’ve ever felt plus think I might be very early pregnant. He not supported me shouted at me in middle of night as I couldn’t breathe so was making noise he screamed at me and said I’m selfish for not sleeping on the sofa. Eventually I went on the sofa couldn’t be in the same room as him. This morning I can’t even stand up I’m so dizzy and unwell but he asked me to get our son ready as he was too busy. Then he just left with our son to take him to my sisters. No goodbye nothing I addressed this and he just said what do I expect he doesn’t want to talk to me as he’s tired and it’s my fault he said I’ve caused this on purpose as I’ve called in sick so I can sleep all day and he has to work.
Usually we get on well with only a few little arguments here and there. We’re moving in with my parents next year so we can save and pay of his debt.
I just have a real strong feeling of resentment to him right now and it’s causing me massive anxiety.
I also have no one to talk to about it
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If I decide to cook or not do laundry, it won't get done?
I am beyond tired.
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There's a reason why women are opting out of marriage or having less children. There's a reason more women with children are turning gay and being with someone that understands.
The whole political system, the whole f*cking world is SH*T because of MEN!
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