Single Mother - Struggling

Son is now 8 and I am struggling so bad with life and motherhood in general. I have no friends, no hobbies. I just work and stay home while praying for it to be nighttime so all the pain and sadness will go away. I wake up each day and start it all over again. I don't know what I am doing here but I am trying to give everything a shot.

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Thoughts?

Recently had a friend mast****** to me. We are both single. He looked at my face, told me I turned him on, started and then finished. We have had a sexual relationship in the past. I was fully clothed and he was watching me do something benign…I was typing on my computer. I found it to be incredibly hot. My friends have since called it selfish. Thoughts? We have had an on and off sexual dynamic for years.

My husband wants a threesome to avoid going to the doctor

I have a daughter from a previous relationship. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for the last 3 years. I’ve been to the doctor and they did testing, and everything seems okay on my end. My husband refuses to go. He says he’d rather not know than face the reality he may be infertile. His solution: we have a threesome with another man, who consents to surrendering parental rights legally, and he puts his name on the birth certificate and we don’t tell anyone. He says this way, we’re both involved from conception. I told him this sounds ridiculous and he just needs to go to the doctor because it could be a simple solution. Still, he refuses. I told him I didn’t think he could mentally handle it, as he can get jealous sometimes. He promised he wouldn’t since the intent is a baby and it’s consensual, so I wouldn’t be cheating. Recently he’s been watching 2 guy/1 girl porn to prove he can “get in the right headspace” and says he thinks it could be sexy/fun if we communicate with all parties involved and have a lawyer write some contracts for legal purposes so no one can try to claim rights to the child. I told him I would have concerns with people whispering behind our backs that the baby may not look like either of us, and I may get accused of cheating, but he said that shouldn’t matter because he will put anyone in their place. He also pointed out how my current daughter is not biologically his, but people always tell her she looks like him/ is “definitely” his kid. I told him I’m not sure I’m comfortable with this, and he asked me just take some time and think it over. Frankly, I just don’t want to have sex with anyone else. He’s also against artificial insemination. If we need to go that route, he would rather adopt, but our area has very strict foster rules (our first option) and private adoption is outside of our budget (our last resort).

Leaving LO

Has anybody left their baby with someone yet? My fiancé wants us to go out for our anniversary this weekend for dinner & my mum has offered to watch my girl for a couple hours.

I have PPA & PPD but I am trying so hard to work through it, is it too soon to leave her? How did it go if you guys have done it? She is also EBF so I would need to pump so that whole situation is also in my head 😅

Do you consider kissing another person cheating?

Curious everyone’s thoughts on this. This recently happened to me. Was seeing someone and he kissed another person at a bar. Said it was a one time thing and wasn’t really cheating. I disagreed and ended things but now I question whether it was too harsh.

Fed up of my relationship

Me and my boyfriend got back together for the baby - big mistake. I hate every second of this life together. He’s been in touch with girls he slept with ( when we were broken up, I’ve deleted everyone )whilst I was being pregnant. I literally cannot think straight. I hate him, I want him gone from my life. It might be a worse day I have today and I hate him extra, but every day is a struggle, because how the fuck were they better than me? I’m done, I’m so done I need out with my baby and him out of my life. I don’t trust him or believe in anything he says.

Friends

Heyy! 💕 I’m a full-time SAHM to twin boys who just turned 2! Would love to make some mom friends and plan some playdates or little outings with the kiddos! 🥰