If you found out your partner was masturbating to pictures of his ex, how would you respond?

If you've been through this please share your experience. It's been 2 years and I can't get over it. We have 2 under 2 and I'm a sahm, i feel stuck.

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So did he do this whilst you were pregnant?

Honestly this would be way too much for me personally. Did you get pregnant after you knew about this? I’d speak with him, also was he caught and thats how you found out?

The fact that it is still bothering you for two years I think tells you everything you need to know.

That’s cheating in my book and I would treat it as such

I'm gonna be the weird one here I think, please don't come at me for it. It's not something I think my husband would ever do, so I'm probably the wrong person to reply. But. IF. And only IF. It is JUST. Masterbating. And not anything else even vaguely emotional? It would absolutely bother me but I think it would be something I would try to have an honest conversation about. Like if there are photos delete them, why do you have those. That would change things a bit. But if it's just thinking about an ex or a memory and moving on to a normal day after? It's not really different than porn, in my mind. You can't "delete" a memory really (not easily anyway) and I will admit I have some good ones with an ex or two of mine. I would absolutely be hurt to know about it happening, but I don't think I would leave my husband over it. Again, only if it's just getting off and calling it a day. If there's more to it then there's more to it!! Either way I'm so sorry you're going through this my dear.

Your gonna have to leave that man clearly he's unstable

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