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Venting (judge free)

Should I leave?

I’m 8 weeks PP, I have 3 months full pay from work on maternity then I’ll be on SMP. I live with my partner and we have a mortgage together.

I have said to him let’s look at both our finances and work together. He tells me his finances and shows me on chat gbt (weird) and his app (self employed). What he won’t show me is his bank account and savings account. He says I should jsut trust him and it’s weird I don’t trust what he says.
I find he’s gas lighting me and has more money than he’s letting on.

But he says he can’t afford to look after me for the year with our baby. He says he’ll cover the bills, so gas and electric and water but I still gotta pay for the mortgage which is £400 a month so I’ll be left with 400 for the month which isn’t possible as I have car bills and food and such.

He drives my car to work and has used it for the majority of the year. I had to pay over 1k for its MOT and I asked to borrow £500 as I didn’t have the money but still had to give it back.

I don’t feel I’m looked after and he always says things he’s gonna do but never does. It’s like saying it and having the consideration is enough for him rather than doing it.

I don’t know what to do and every time we talk about finances it always blows up cause I don’t trust him. He’s saying I should be using my savings and not his.

Am I being unreasonable ? He called me a money grabbing bitch in the heated argument.

I jsut feel being single I’m better off at this point or am I being out fo order expecting him to pay for my year off?