Screen time

I solo parent for at least 10 hours a day six days a week, and feel extremely guilty any time I put my 3 month old daughter in front of the screen.
If she is ever in front of it, it’s no longer than five minutes just so I can go to the loo, sort her bottles out or make her a bottle.
However, after reading the impact of what a screen can do to such a young mind, it makes me feel awful putting her in front of it.
I guess what I’m asking is, does anyone else seem to be in the same situation or similar. If so how do you deal with the guilt of it (if any)?
Also if anyone has any recommendations on how to keep my daughter entertained during wake windows it would be extremely appreciated, as all I seem to be doing is singing and playing with instruments.
Thank you:)

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I am a solo Mum, I feel like this advice doesn’t consider women in our situation. My son loves Shaun the Sheep and this is what allows me to shower, wash his bottles and do the odd cleaning bits. I also play with him throughout the day too balance it out but I’m so sorry I’m putting on Shaun the Sheep or a David Attenborough documentary when I need to get shit done 😂

I have a similar problem and my boys wake windows are so long! Sometimes putting on YouTube videos of the sea or ducks or something helps take some of the guilt off because he’s seeing real things rather than “brainrot”. Or sometimes even taking him with me to wash bottles, make dinner etc he loves watching me do the nose random things from his bouncer. And if you don’t have one already I’d say get a baby gym. Absolute life saver!

Im pretty sure a lot of the research is centered around fast paced content like tiktoks and most of the new kids programs. Have you tried things like videos of aquariums? I believe there's videos of fish that are specifically for babies. That should be enough to hold their attention! Or you could get a light projector. I could sit my daughter infront of a lamp and she'd be happy for a good while haha

My boy is 3m & we watch tv together he probably can't see much but its cold rainy windy. We go for a walk atleast once a day , do tummy time, play but sometimes you do need to chill & im not going to sit with no tv on just because of a no screens rule x

I dont know what ild do without tv.

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