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Is there a polite way for me to refuse any further student midwifery involvement in my care?

I’m 37 weeks and every single student midwifery I have had , has struggled to find my babies heart beat, added quite a lot of stress by having to constantly leave the room to ask the senior midwives questions or to find baby, even student doctors can’t find baby’s heartbeat.

I’m a high risk pregnancy, need a delivery suite labour and I appreciate they have to learn / tick off so many births etc but I’m just a bit ansy and fed up now , I don’t want the unnecessary stress.

How can I politely decline the student midwifes seeing me in my next midwife appt in the community and for them not to be involved in my birth?

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They should ask for consent for them to be involved before caring for you so just saying "no, I don't want to have students please" is fine. Don't even need the please it's all within your choice and right to say no, thanks
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And when it's shift handover just remind your current midwife that you decline having any students so that way on the midwives handover they should allocate you with a midwife who doesn't have a student that day automatically 🥰

When I’ve had a student check heart beat the midwife has always been there in the room and they have asked if it’s ok. You absolutely can say no thanks it’s causing me a lot of unnecessary stress

They should ask if you're ok with students before being involved and my experience is the student has asked if I am ok with it. You can just say no thank you. If it was me I would say as soon as I arrived on the labour ward that I would rather not have students involved in my care so in theory I wouldn't have to say so again

Do you have access to the badger app? If so, you could ask on there if you don't want to do it face to face. Just explain your anxiety, they will understand.

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