Any advice please!
I’m white, and my fiancé is Black, so our son is mixed. With the world being the way it is, I worry about having the conversations with him someday about racism, police interactions, and how to keep himself safe. As his mom, one of my biggest fears is losing my son because of the color of his skin or an interaction with a police officer.
My fiancé doesn’t feel like it’s something we need to worry about right now and thinks our son will learn about racism as he gets older. I respect his perspective, and I don’t want to push him or act like I know what it’s like to experience racism as a Black man when I don’t. At the same time, I feel like these are important conversations that we need to be prepared to have with our son.
For other moms in interracial relationships or raising Black and mixed-race children, how have you approached these conversations? At what age did you start talking about racism and police interactions? Is this something I should leave primarily to his dad to teach him, or is it important for me to be involved in those conversations, too?
I want to protect my son, prepare him for the world without making him afraid of it, and make sure he always feels loved and supported. I would really appreciate hearing your experiences and advice. ❤️
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Whilst my partner will take the lead with these conversations, it's important that I'm still there so that I can reinforce and know what has been discussed and the approach that has been taken, so that if something happens around me or my son asks me about something, I have that knowledge to support. It's good to have conversations about things just you and your partner too because there may be some things you were never aware of. It's definitely good to educate yourself. I know we have already had to tackle some things with friends and family members which we will teach our son about as he has more understanding. I don't think it's ever too young to make them aware of things that are okay and not okay. It's about catering your language and the content to their age. Such as when they're very young you could sort and discuss things into simple good and bad, it doesn't need to get really deep as they wouldn't understand and the key info could then be lost. I'm all for using story books too!
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Any advice please!
I’m white, and my fiancé is Black, so our son is mixed. With the world being the way it is, I worry about having the conversations with him someday about racism, police interactions, and how to keep himself safe. As his mom, one of my biggest fears is losing my son because of the color of his skin or an interaction with a police officer.
My fiancé doesn’t feel like it’s something we need to worry about right now and thinks our son will learn about racism as he gets older. I respect his perspective, and I don’t want to push him or act like I know what it’s like to experience racism as a Black man when I don’t. At the same time, I feel like these are important conversations that we need to be prepared to have with our son.
For other moms in interracial relationships or raising Black and mixed-race children, how have you approached these conversations? At what age did you start talking about racism and police interactions? Is this something I should leave primarily to his dad to teach him, or is it important for me to be involved in those conversations, too?
I want to protect my son, prepare him for the world without making him afraid of it, and make sure he always feels loved and supported. I would really appreciate hearing your experiences and advice. ❤️
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