Birthday invitation etiquette

Im sure ill get some interesting feedback on this but whenever we invite someone we always ask if they'll be bringing any siblings along. We do set the expectation that activities will obvs be oriented to whatever age my kid is turning but I do include them in activities/food served. This comes from my own situation where I have a 10month old and no childcare before 13 months when her nursery starts so I actually have no option but to bring my LO to whichever party my 4yo is going to. Unless we divide and conquer with my hubs but we usually make a day outing from it. I also always offer to pay for my 10month old and all the parents who were bringing a sibling were always offering to pay as well.

I’ve played it by ear - there’s not a general invite for siblings but some people have asked if they can come, and also offered to pay. I waited to get RSVPs and worked out there were a few spare places going, and offered those to people who asked. I also decided not to take the money but I appreciated the offer.

My son is having a soft play party and I invited people from his class and some of his little friends outside of nursery. I included the siblings from his friends outside of nursery because we see them more often and I know about them but his nursery friends I don’t know whether they have siblings. I did actually have a mum ask me if my sons friend brother could also attend and I said yes only because I had the space but if I didn’t I would have said no but that’s just purely on the space of the place. I feel like you shouldn’t feel obligated to invite siblings especially if you don’t have the space for them or if your son doesn’t see or really know them.

Hope it helps xx

We’re doing the same for our twins tbh I’ve invited some of their nursery friends and just wait on the replies if the parents ask to bring a sibling then my answer is yes. If they don’t ask I don’t naturally offer as if everyone has 2-3 siblings I’d be screwed 🤣🤭🥰