Advice plz
5 weeks pp and feeling rage, resentment and depletion. 😐
I feel like nothing I do is good enough. My partner is so unappreciative and just doesn’t understand what it’s like trying to look after and constantly feed a newborn. He thinks that because I’m at home all day, I have so much free time on my hands, when in reality, it’s the complete opposite!
I feel like he doesn’t do enough. He hasn’t changed a single nappy because he just thinks it’s my job. I feed her, change her, bathe her, entertain her when she’s awake and do everything else that comes with being a mum.
I fear I’m growing resentment towards him, and I’m even starting to question whether I’m in love with him anymore his presence just seems to really irritate me at the minute 🥲
Is this normal? Has anyone else felt like this???
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I have this too. It does pass as it has happened every time and im on baby no 3😂
Doesnt matter how much i talk to my husband he still thinks i sit at home and play all day 🙄
I have a toddler and newborn at home but yes i sit and play all day 🙈
Realistically, im either feeding a child or wiping a childs bum and attempting to tidy up before fetching my eldest from school 😂 oh and then realising at 4pm ive not had any lunch since i was making/being lunch for other people
Im so sorry youre dealing with this, I would be so annoyed too. Does he spend time with you on weekends? I would say its time for him to do a trial day where he does everything you do so he can see how busy it is!!!
This is exactly my situation at the moment too! My little one is nearly 9 weeks and I’ve done it all! I thought at first it may be a bonding thing and it would take longer for him to bond with him! But he does seem disinterested we have had talks about it will change for a couple of days then back to normal
I’m holding out hope that when he becomes more interactive with him it will change but we shall see
You are not alone and your feelings are completely valid! Trust me I get it 😀
As selfish as this seems… I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling like this and in this situation
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5 weeks pp and feeling rage, resentment and depletion. 😐
I feel like nothing I do is good enough. My partner is so unappreciative and just doesn’t understand what it’s like trying to look after and constantly feed a newborn. He thinks that because I’m at home all day, I have so much free time on my hands, when in reality, it’s the complete opposite!
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I fear I’m growing resentment towards him, and I’m even starting to question whether I’m in love with him anymore his presence just seems to really irritate me at the minute 🥲
Is this normal? Has anyone else felt like this???
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