Trying to get out of house with baby

My baby is almost 10 weeks and we have taken him out only for his appointment and 4-5 times on stroller walk, i wish to take him out daily but simply can't, either he sleeps in weird times or there is something to be done at home and the day just ends like that and it simply feels like on loop. At the end of the day i feel so bad about myself about the life it has become for me. I never thought motherhood could be so hard and so lonely.

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How do you make your life interesting?

Hi mamas, I'm a SAHM with a 20-mo old boy and find it mentally really hard. I'm naturally someone who needs quite a bit of mental stimulation and the repetitive days are just killing me. I go to playgroups and toddler activties 3-4 times a week but it somehow isn't enough for me. And I feel like I've lost the joy and spark I used to have pre-baby. I love him and he makes me smile every day but I'm also drained and feeling low and lonely and can't appreciate this time with him enough. Part of the problem is that we moved cities 6 months ago for my partner's job and I don't yet have any close friends and my family and old friends are far away. I just feel like my life insn't very interesting for myself at the moment.

If there's anyone who can relate or has gone through similar emotions, I'd love to hear any tricks, hacks, solutions, mental shifts you might have found to help. Thank you for reading ❤️

So overwhelmed and exhausted

I just need to vent because I am so overwhelmed right now. My boyfriend got hurt at work two weeks ago today, and they suspect he has a hernia. Because it’s a workers’ comp claim, everything has been moving SO slowly. Today we went in because we were supposed to finally get the results of his CT scan and find out whether he needs surgery. Only to get there and find out that the imaging place never sent the results to his doctor. They literally sent us home and told us to come back tomorrow and hopefully the results would be there by then. We called the imaging place ourselves, and they basically said, “Oh yeah, we forgot to send them.”

Meanwhile, my boyfriend is on a five-pound lifting restriction. He can’t even pick up our daughter because she’s 25 pounds, and lifting anything over five pounds could make his injury significantly worse. So for the last two weeks, I’ve essentially been solo parenting. I know he wants to help, and I know he’s frustrated that he can’t, but that doesn’t make it any less exhausting.

On top of that, he works incredibly long hours in emergency services. Some nights he doesn’t get home until 3 a.m., and he’s back out the door by 7:30 in the morning. I feel like I’m doing everything, all day, every day, and I barely have a chance to catch my breath.

And because apparently that’s not enough, I’m also dealing with a whole phone situation. My brother and I are switching phone providers, but he lives in a completely different state. Somehow, my new phone ended up being shipped to his house, and he accidentally activated my phone instead of his. So now my current phone doesn’t even have service, and I’m waiting for my new phone to be shipped to me. Which means I can’t even call doctor’s offices or the imaging center to try to get things moving with my boyfriend’s claim. All I can do is FaceTime or FaceTime audio when I’m connected to Wi-Fi.

Every time I leave the house, I have to text my boyfriend beforehand and tell him where I’m going, how long I’ll be gone, and that he won’t be able to reach me because I won’t have service. Something as simple as running to the grocery store has become another thing I have to plan around. It’s just so frustrating feeling like I can’t even take care of the things I need to take care of because of one more stupid thing going wrong.

I’m just so tired. My arms hurt, my body hurts, and mentally I’m running on empty. My daughter is 25 pounds (10 months), and as much as I love holding her and being there for her, carrying a 25-pound baby around all day is no joke. I feel so alone in this right now, and I think the hardest part is that I don’t really have a choice but to keep pushing through because someone still needs me.

I love my family more than anything, but I’m struggling right now. I don’t need everything to be perfect. I just wish something would go smoothly for once. I wish I could get a break, have someone take care of me for a little bit, and not feel like absolutely everything is falling on my shoulders. I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, and honestly just needed somewhere to let it all out. I literally almost started crying at the grocery store because I’m just so burnt out

Worry

Does anyone else have constant guilt / worry that they’re not doing enough to interact or keep the little one entertained for the day?

Military school

Does anyone else think military school is for lazy parents? I have a family member who has a son who is a few weeks away from being 6 years old. He has a hard time listening and following directions. Many people, myself included and the pediatrician, thinks he's autistic. The pediatrician has recommended multiple times to get him tested but the family member won't. Which is wild to me because we both work in the same place. With mentally disabled adults. But she keeps complaining about how he doesnt listen and doesnt dollow directions and threatens him all the time about being sent away to military school. She'll tell me while the boy is in ear shot or not that shes done with him and cant take it anymore and is really considering military school. To me I feel like she doesnt want to put in the effort to parent him the way he needs. And it feels like she wants the easy way out. It truly hurts my heart because I have 2 boys and I've helped raise this boy since he was born. What are your thoughts?

Going back to School

Any moms here that went to school with a newborn? How was that experience? Is it manageable?

I plan on enrolling when baby is 3 months. I won’t be going back to work when baby arrives. I plan on taking 8 units to start.

I know it will be difficult but I do have a support system that will help with baby when I attend class and do course work.

Im really trying but lost

My son is 15 and I dont know to do. He has almost all f in school and is refusing to do his work its either I forgot or he just flat out doesn't do it and argues on why he hasn't. He also go in trouble for repeatedly talking to random people online some of which are over 18. Anything he does wrong he always finds a way to try to blame someone else. He was down to an old tv that he could only watch DVD or vhs on. He even got busted getting on his school computer to talk to people. I have a doctor's appointment set up for him but I just am at a loss. He says all the time he didnt care if he fails he will just make it up later but fails to listen when I say playing catch up is going to be ten times harder than it is now. He claims hes struggling in school but hes just flat out refusing to do the work. When hes told no he just pushes and push and will not stop arguing he even said he just wants to see how far he can push it at times. Im at my breaking point