Im really trying but lost
My son is 15 and I dont know to do. He has almost all f in school and is refusing to do his work its either I forgot or he just flat out doesn't do it and argues on why he hasn't. He also go in trouble for repeatedly talking to random people online some of which are over 18. Anything he does wrong he always finds a way to try to blame someone else. He was down to an old tv that he could only watch DVD or vhs on. He even got busted getting on his school computer to talk to people. I have a doctor's appointment set up for him but I just am at a loss. He says all the time he didnt care if he fails he will just make it up later but fails to listen when I say playing catch up is going to be ten times harder than it is now. He claims hes struggling in school but hes just flat out refusing to do the work. When hes told no he just pushes and push and will not stop arguing he even said he just wants to see how far he can push it at times. Im at my breaking point
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So sorry you’re dealing with this. I had a similar issue. A lot of mine came from split custody between two very different households. I would try counseling and is he able to switch his learning environment?
Online schooling , preferably in school . I went to school and sat at a computer for 8 hours . Helped me get caught up on my classes . In the areas I felt hopeless, graduating on time seemed hopeful . I was 2 credits away from graduating. Stupid not to . He needs a job and counseling also. Not just counseling for him , family counseling. Even short term family therapy can help shift you two towards that mother- son dynamic that you’re striving for . My kids are only 2 but I had a troublesome teenage years not long ago behind me . These are things that helped me cope . He could also be depressed .
Don’t be hard on yourself. I was the same way 15 could be just a phase . Dont be hard on yourself ❤️
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