Hey Mummas, I hate to write this as I feel embarrassed that I’m struggling! But the last 2 nights have been horrific, with lots of restlessness and crying, even after a change, milk, cuddle and it’s the same through the day 😢.
Unless he’s on me and we’re stood up, he’s constantly chewing on everything, I just feel at a loss and as though I’m failing and I feel so lonely, my husband is amazing but it feels like he can carry on like normal but I feel broken.
Any tips/advice?
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I feel the same at the minute it’s exhausting! Honestly the only thing getting me though is knowing it’s not forever, it has to get better at some point 😅

Did you try giving him some painkillers? Sounds like he is teething ?

It's tough out here. I have no advice but what I will say is please don't feel embarrassed, it will pass ❤️
Does anyone else feel like if their baby is awake their crying? Even feeding is a nightmare and he cries throughout it just taking a couple sips at a time. Doctors and health visitors say he's fine as gaining weight and just to ride it out basically but it's so difficult! I'm jealous of all the mums that can take their babies out for walks etc., I can't as he'll just cry and by the time I've finished the cycle of a nap (always contact nap), feed and finally get him to stop crying etc he wants to sleep again, it's making me feel so isolated. Are any other mums in the same boat? How do you cope?! I can't even eat for most of the day or get anything done in the house until my partner gets home as hes either sleeping on me or feeding or having a meltdown. I feel so guilty all the time and also feel robbed of the experience of these early months. I know there's probably no solution, I guess I just need a vent or not feel so alone :(
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My daughter is 17 months old and may I mention that just because she’s a girl it doesn’t make it any easier, girl or boy. Toddlers are hard work!!
I want to check in with all toddler mums because I know for a fact I’m not the only mum that’s sitting in a corner pulling their hair out 😂
Took my daughter to rhyme time today at the library and the first 15 minutes were great, she was going up to everyone and said hi, was just really happy until she wanted to escape and leave the library, it was awful. All the mums were looking at me in horror as I pick her up to take her back into the library and she screamed, scratched my face, threw a toy at my face and was hitting me with full force 🥲my child is genuinely so feral I can’t take her there anymore.
I got home and gave her a nap and then I went downstairs to just cry because it was super overwhelming, the stacks of washing that need doing, the endless tasks of needing to go back out and grab things, on top of a little madam that isn’t having her day today. All of it just got ontop of me, I handle things quite well but today it’s felt impossible.
Reality of having a little girl who is so on it, it can be so exhausting.
How has everyone else’s day gone so far? How are we coping?

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I’m genuinely so sick and fkn tired of bonfire night they srsly need to ban fireworks in residential areas, there are firework shows everywhere why tf don’t people just go to them. Idk how my toddler is going to sleep, my cat is absolutely terrified all for these tramps to look at gunpowder in the fkn sky
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Is anyone else’s husband/boyfriend terrible at soothing the baby? I keep feeling like I need to let them work it out but at the same time I can see they are both having an awful time and it’s hard not to intervene. I hate seeing baby crying and he instantly stops when I grab him, but I also know I need to let my husband learn to deal with it so it is really hard to know what to do.
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My baby will turn 1 year in January, and I resume full-time work at 7 to 7(I will enquire about flexible working) if I can start from 8am since the childminder and nursery I have contacted starts at 7:30. My partner has flexible working already start at 10am but the downside is that he got a job very far where he has to leave early and drive. Basically, drop off and pick up,I have to be present. He works Monday to Thursday. My working days varies including both day shift and night shifts. Any advice or enlightenment is much welcome, I feel so lost, and my heart is breaking for my little one.
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What’s everyone giving their LO’s for breakfast if you’ve started weaning? We go between yoghurt and porridge with fruit at the moment, I’ve seen people say about weetabix so might add that soon.
My LG reacted to egg so that’s out of the question for now unfortunately - was planning to rely on that a lot so feeling a bit limited now so any other ideas welcome!
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