Looking for childcare advice
My baby will turn 1 year in January, and I resume full-time work at 7 to 7(I will enquire about flexible working) if I can start from 8am since the childminder and nursery I have contacted starts at 7:30. My partner has flexible working already start at 10am but the downside is that he got a job very far where he has to leave early and drive. Basically, drop off and pick up,I have to be present. He works Monday to Thursday. My working days varies including both day shift and night shifts. Any advice or enlightenment is much welcome, I feel so lost, and my heart is breaking for my little one.
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Do u have family that could help when u can't do pick up or drop off?
I know some people request for things like permanent nights. If that was something that could work for you x
Have a look at flexible working and speak to your managed and HR for what is possible. They have to consider all requests and give one of the 7 reasons to decline. You are in the best position now as you are returning to work after pregnancy and maternity so they need to support you. Here’s a link to acas website, https://www.acas.org.uk/statutory-flexible-working-requests , but have an honest conversation with work for what would work for you and them x
Could you reduce your working hours?
Does your partner have to go into work or does he have the option to WFH? What time is he home if he doesn't start until 10?
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