Have I done the right thing?

So my LG is 3 she started pre school in September and with a child minder for breakfast and after school club, she loves going and always tells me about it and shes so happy. On monday I picked her up from the child minder and she told me she had a cut on her head and there also was an incident report in her bag from school, so to I took that as the slip will say what happened, I got home and looked at her head and there was a small cut with a purplish bump and bits of blood in her hair, I read the incident slip and it said she had been playing in the sand pit and got he arm stuck in the lid and has a small mark on her upper arm. This clearly didn't explain her head, I checked her other bag to see if there was another clip and found her tshirt with splotches on blood on it. By this point so I was getting worried as to what happend, I dropped her off with the childminder the next day and told her to let the school know id be calling about her head as the incident slip didn't explain it and she just smiled and nodded at me. I called the school and had number of back and forth conversations and based of everything they told me it was evident she didn't hurt her head there, when I picked her up from the child minder that night she was really abrupt with me saying I got her in trouble with safeguarding and that ive brought her name into it and stabbed her in the back, initially I felt like id done something wrong even though the school called safeguarding not me and I didnt bring her name into it. She then said if I didn't recent what I said to safeguarding she was going to terminate the contact. I started feeling like it was my fault and id done something wrong, she said she change her shirt but didn't notice the blood but she never told me it happened at school, but she didn't correct me either or tell me really what happened.

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I contact the school the next day saying I didnt want to accuse or blame anyone I was just trying to find out what happened but its clear it was a unwitness accident and not to take it further, that night I picked her up she said she is terminating the contract as immediate effect as she doesnt me! I was so upset, I got home and replayed everything and crying thinking it was my fault, after sleeping on it and going over and over in my mind it became clear she completely gaslighted me, she knew she had an accident cos she changed her top so the blood was obvious and would of also cleaned her hands, she had 2 opportunities to correct me on thinking it happend at school when it didn't and she knew that, and being abrupt with me passing the blame, she never filled in an incident report, then terminate the contract cos she doesnt trust me? I update the school and they were going to contact safeguarding and update them, I dont know anymore till I speak with the school

I cant shake the feeling of feeling like crap like its all my fault, I feel heart broken for my daughter cos she asked about her and she doesny understand and thats also added to feeling like crap and makes me think should I of just left it once she stopped going back to her or did I do the right thing in telling the school?

I think you did the right thing. The childminder's reaction seems a lil OTT like she had something to hide.
Your main priority is your child, especially as they can't speak up for themselves as yet.
Sounds like you did the right thing. Find yourself someone else who will welcome any type of feedback 💖

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