Drowning

Anyone else feel like your drowning trying to do it ALL and becoming a mother you don’t want to be?! 😭 I am 9 weeks postpartum with my second and have been a stay at home mom for almost a year now. I am trying to juggle all the things but catch myself either being frustrated or just crying. I want to keep the house clean, play with my 3 year old, tend to my baby, get out of the house everyday, cook, show up for myself and be a good wife but lately it’s too much. 🫠 I have a hard time asking for help but just don’t know how I can continue to do it all. The worst part is my 3 year old tells me sorry for being grumpy when I have been grumpy which brakes my heart. Any suggestions are welcome because I need to figure out a new way to do it all.

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Girl I’m sorry I feel you 💯 as women we are expected to juggle so much like house care, child care, self care etc! And we’re supposed to make it look easy and never get upset which I think is so unfair, you’re not alone, stay strong and feel free to message me if you’d like 🫶

Oh I can feel your pain and it's completely understandable in your situation. I wonder if there's anything you can let go of that could help? Maybe speak to your partner about your capacity at the moment and see if they can take some of the load? Asking for help is probably the best way forward, do you have family around who could come help with the baby or cooking? Or if your financial situation allows, pay a cleaner if that feels easier? Or could mess & microwave meals be ok for a while? What could someone else do and what do you need/want to do yourself? You don't have to do it all and raising kids takes a village. I know many of us don't have one (I also live far away from my family and friends) but finding a way to create a bit of a network with the resources you have is probably the best investment of time/courage/money. Your mental wellbeing is the thing that carries all of it so prioritising that is what's best for everyone. Big hugs ❤️

I really want to have another baby, but my little one is only 6 months old. How has it been for you having a baby and a 3-year-old? I’ve been thinking about the struggle if I have another baby so close in age, especially when my oldest is only going to be 1. I would love to hear how you’ve been managing everything. ❤️

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