Child free friends

I don’t have similar experience but people will say something let them speak they are crazy . I can understand how tough it is but you know you are too strong. So ignore and focus on your small family you your husband and kids, it’s your life your journey so don’t take stress. If something hurts you forgive and forget by assuming that that the person is not mad🤣. Not because she or he is actually but if you take them seriously it is not good for your health. Already you are struggling to raise your children you don’t have time to think about these people. Be stronger and safe.

Yes. People who don't have children can often say things that sound thoughtless to me. Used to drive me crazy when I still jad a lot of pp rage in me 😅 but now I just try to ignore it - it's their crazy, not yours, so don't take it personally.
But I get it when it comes to friendship - I had one friend who said something similar when I was pregnant (needless to say, showed other signs of carelessness too), so we are not as close anymore. I just don't think as highly of her as I used to with her behaving to thoughtlessly when I was pregnant and in early pp.

Idk maybe she feels like she needs to justify the fact she doesn’t have kids because as a woman she probably gets nagged about it and asked about it a lot. People are very nosey about that sort of thing. I wouldn’t take it as anything to do with you, might even be a poor attempt at saying “oh we couldn’t manage, don’t know how you do it” sort of thing, but it’s probably just her feeling like the main character and thinking about her feelings and not really thinking it’s offensive or upsetting in any way. She has literally no idea about the pressures of parenthood so doesn’t really realise the extent to which they take over your life. If it’s an issue just mention it next time, say “oh SIL, you always say this when I vent and it would be really helpful if you just empathised😂” or pick your audience better, talk to other parents about it!