My two year old wants to be carried everywhere

She’s refusing sitting in her pram and there’s always tears and a battle to get her back in. Some days I choose just to leave the pram at home but she just insists on being carried and throws tantrums until I have to pick her up just so we can go along with our day.
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She knows that if she tantrums enough you'll cave, you'll have to get tough so she knows that no means no
Sorry, it might be a shit couple of weeks but it's the only way she'll learn

With mine I would just tell her she can choose between walking and the pushchair. Those are the only two options, if there’s a tantrum there’s a tantrum, give in once and you have more work to do undoing it because they always remember what gets them their way 😂😭 if you leave the pushchair at home then honestly you’re opening up carrying as more of an option cos it’s walk or… nothing? You could try are you going to walk on your tiptoes or do you want to march? Or, how many steps to get to that bit, who can get there first etc etc. when you have it I find a snack for the pushchair can be helpful, or a toy, something to help keep them entertained. What way is it facing, can she see much or is she looking at you?

Thanks for commenting ladies. I think it sounds like I’m setting myself up for a fail by not taking the pram. I think it’s just because recently I’ve been finding myself carrying her while trying to push the pram and I was trying to put an end to than in hope she’d enjoy walking along side me. But nope. I think you’re right by not taking the pram I’ve reduced my options I can give her. I’ll have to keep preserving x

Have you tried a trike? Mine seems to prefer the trike to the pram and he gets to hold the handle bars too when he’s in the trike, maybe worth a try for yours?

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