Miserable baby. At my wits end.

It’s draining the life out of me. I can’t even leave the house anymore because he screams in the car seat, he’s hysterical.

Everyone keeps commenting on how upset he is all the time and how angry and moody he is. He hates new places. Hates the car. Hates people. Hates us. Hates absolutely anything and everything.

This has been going on for 4 weeks so far. He doesn’t sleep and hasn’t for months. He has awful reflux which is getting worse. I’ve cut all dairy out of my diet for a month now and he’s still just as miserable. I’m running out of ideas to be honest. My other son was nothing like this, this has sent me into depression. Miserable existence and it’s only getting worse.

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What you feel is totally valid, honestly who wouldn’t. Do you have support from family or friends?

It’s draining isn’t it, we don’t have this all the time but we get days like this. I’d maybe suggest a trip to the GP even just to register that he’s not a happy baby and get some advice.
Is he breast fed? Can you try a different formula? Can you try a different car seat? Is he napping?
😮‍💨 feel for ya xx

Oh lovely, I wish I could give you a big hug. First of all, please don’t feel guilty for feeling this way. A baby who is constantly unsettled, struggling with reflux and not sleeping can take an enormous toll on you, physically and emotionally. And when you’re already exhausted, even the simplest things like getting out of the house can feel impossible.

Please don’t compare your baby to your firstborn either. Every baby is different, and that doesn’t make you any less of a good mum. ❤️

Have you spoken to your GP or health visitor about how much worse the reflux has become? And please don’t forget to look after yourself in all of this. Your mental health matters just as much. You deserve support too, not just your little one.

I really hope things get easier for you soon. You’re not failing, you’re a mum who’s having a really hard time, and there’s a difference. Sending you so much love. ❤️

You are an amazing mom having to deal with all that. Hope he grows out of this rough stage soon I heard it can be extremely bad this 4-5 month thing. Remember it won’t be this rough forever you can get through this.

We had a really upset baby for the first 3 months, all he did was cry. It’s so bloody hard I feel for you. It’ll pass and things will get easier.but that doesn’t take away how hard it is in the moment. I felt the same and really found it hard to enjoy anything. It’s very overstimulating and frustrating.

Could you take him to a paediatrician and get him checked over, maybe he has an allergy or tension or something which could be causing the upset. Also a cranial osteopath might be able to help. I hope you get some rest soon x

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I don’t know if this is the right group to ask. So I been with my husband for about 2 years now. (Known him for about 12 years) We have a 2 week old son. But within the past year, my husband just has got really rude. Has attitude with me all the time. Never helped me really during pregnancy and I waited to see how he would be when the baby got here. But being 2 weeks pp he really hurts my feelings. I told him to think about our marriage, etc and expressed how I felt. He said he wasn’t going to do that and that he loves me but I don’t feel the “love”. I always wanted a family and to be happy (I know marriage isn’t always perfect). But I don’t know what to do. I question if he really does love me. Etc. And I’m really debating if I should just see where it goes and maybe he’s stressed, etc? Or if I should just end it cuz nothing might ever change.

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Is anyone else experiencing relationship troubles?
We are on baby number 2 and I just feel we are all over the place, husband is never quiet happy but I’m just not in the same headspace I was not sure it will ever go back to what it was.

Is it time to let go?

I’m struggling with this and could really use some honest advice from other moms who may have been through something similar.

The father of my baby and I have been having relationship problems. One of the biggest issues is communication. Whenever there’s a disagreement or something needs to be worked through, he struggles to communicate, and his tendency is to walk away rather than talk things out or find a solution together.

About a month ago, we got into an argument because I expressed how overwhelmed I was with taking care of the baby at night and how much I needed his help. Instead of working through it with me, he packed his bags and left.

He eventually started coming around again when our baby got sick. I appreciated that he was there for our son, but instead of moving back in with us or making an effort to work on our relationship, he would come see us after work and then go back to staying at his friend’s house.

I feel lonely, sad, and honestly, emotionally exhausted. Taking care of a baby is already a lot, and doing it without having a partner by my side makes it even harder. I miss having someone to share the responsibilities with, someone to lean on, and someone who wants to work through difficult moments instead of walking away.

I’ve tried expressing how I feel, but somehow every conversation turns into another argument. I don’t want to keep begging someone to communicate, show up, or want to be part of a family.

Part of me still hopes things can work out, but another part of me wonders if I need to accept that this relationship may not be what I hoped it would be.

How do you know when it’s time to stop holding on and let go? Do you give it more time, especially when there’s a baby involved, or do you accept that love alone isn’t enough without communication, consistency, and effort from both people?

How many times a day are you feeding your little one solids/purees?

Social media has me thinking it should be 3 meals a day, I’ve even seen clips of babies eating steak and all sorts. I don’t know where I’d find the time! Also, I’m giving my baby mash but the finger foods still make me nervous!

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No one knows it but I skip meals to save money. I’d rather give all the food to my daughter. I feel guilty buying myself anything.. all my clothes are old and worn out. Some even have holes. Best believe my daughter is dressed nice.. has plenty of toys and shelter.