Is it time to let go?
I’m struggling with this and could really use some honest advice from other moms who may have been through something similar.
The father of my baby and I have been having relationship problems. One of the biggest issues is communication. Whenever there’s a disagreement or something needs to be worked through, he struggles to communicate, and his tendency is to walk away rather than talk things out or find a solution together.
About a month ago, we got into an argument because I expressed how overwhelmed I was with taking care of the baby at night and how much I needed his help. Instead of working through it with me, he packed his bags and left.
He eventually started coming around again when our baby got sick. I appreciated that he was there for our son, but instead of moving back in with us or making an effort to work on our relationship, he would come see us after work and then go back to staying at his friend’s house.
I feel lonely, sad, and honestly, emotionally exhausted. Taking care of a baby is already a lot, and doing it without having a partner by my side makes it even harder. I miss having someone to share the responsibilities with, someone to lean on, and someone who wants to work through difficult moments instead of walking away.
I’ve tried expressing how I feel, but somehow every conversation turns into another argument. I don’t want to keep begging someone to communicate, show up, or want to be part of a family.
Part of me still hopes things can work out, but another part of me wonders if I need to accept that this relationship may not be what I hoped it would be.
How do you know when it’s time to stop holding on and let go? Do you give it more time, especially when there’s a baby involved, or do you accept that love alone isn’t enough without communication, consistency, and effort from both people?
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This is from a FTM of a 3 month old, newly single. Love alone is NOT enough. You cannot out love someone into trying to make a relationship work. It will drain you.
When I left, I am happier. However, I question myself why I stayed longer when my definition of love, family was not being met by my ex- over and over again. I wish we ended it sooner.
just do what you feel is right, even if you still love him and hope for things to work out, if he’s constantly showing you that he’s not changing his ways then you should not be him and your baby needs you to be happy because they’ll fell your emotions, if he leaves over something like your feelings then he’ll leave when there’s something worse. It’s okay to just be parents, yes it would be nice to be with your partner together and growing with the baby but if it doesn’t work then it doesn’t, always think about if you would want your baby to grow up watching his dad leave all the time then coming back and so on. Having a baby makes you so vulnerable sometimes and if he doesn’t support you during that then he’s not the one. It’s hard at the beginning but eventually you’ll realise you’re doing just fine without him. Being a mum turns you into a superhero. You’ll be okay all you need is your baby and yourself. He’ll probably eventually realise what he’s missing out on.
ThI’m no of it this way… years down the road, your child is older… u get in a fight and daddy just LEAVES cuz he is upset. Now your child is scared and confused. Is this something you’re willing to put up with forever? Are you willing to put your kid through that? Do you want your child to think it’s ok to just LEAVe or quit when things get hard?
It’s up to you. Do you feel that he is RESPECTING YOU by leaving you alone when your ask for help. Value yourself and your worth and protect your child at all costs.
Love is never enough. It takes patience and communication and commitment to make a relationship work. Hope you find your happiness
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Is it time to let go?
I’m struggling with this and could really use some honest advice from other moms who may have been through something similar.
The father of my baby and I have been having relationship problems. One of the biggest issues is communication. Whenever there’s a disagreement or something needs to be worked through, he struggles to communicate, and his tendency is to walk away rather than talk things out or find a solution together.
About a month ago, we got into an argument because I expressed how overwhelmed I was with taking care of the baby at night and how much I needed his help. Instead of working through it with me, he packed his bags and left.
He eventually started coming around again when our baby got sick. I appreciated that he was there for our son, but instead of moving back in with us or making an effort to work on our relationship, he would come see us after work and then go back to staying at his friend’s house.
I feel lonely, sad, and honestly, emotionally exhausted. Taking care of a baby is already a lot, and doing it without having a partner by my side makes it even harder. I miss having someone to share the responsibilities with, someone to lean on, and someone who wants to work through difficult moments instead of walking away.
I’ve tried expressing how I feel, but somehow every conversation turns into another argument. I don’t want to keep begging someone to communicate, show up, or want to be part of a family.
Part of me still hopes things can work out, but another part of me wonders if I need to accept that this relationship may not be what I hoped it would be.
How do you know when it’s time to stop holding on and let go? Do you give it more time, especially when there’s a baby involved, or do you accept that love alone isn’t enough without communication, consistency, and effort from both people?
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