She “breastfed” my baby
I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting, but I just found out my MIL has been putting my daughter to her breast whenever she watches her. Apparently, the first time my baby wouldn’t stop crying, she tried it to see if she would calm down. When I confronted her, she said she wasn’t actually breastfeeding her because she doesn’t produce milk anymore and was just trying to soothe her. What makes it worse is that she apparently did it more than once, and when I asked why she never thought to tell me, she said she didn’t think I would have a problem with it since there was no milk involved. My husband thinks I’m making it weird and says his mom raised children before and knows what she’s doing. His mom also thinks I’m being disrespectful by making her feel ashamed of something she considers natural.
I don’t care how anyone feels about breastfeeding, but am I wrong for thinking nobody should be putting their breast in my baby’s mouth without my permission, regardless of whether they’re producing milk?
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I think it would have been better if she was producing milk, cause without milk this is just weird. Although she may have not meant any harm, she is the baby’s grand mother not mother so regardless of whether she has raised children before if you’re not okay with something with your own child you have the final say. And I find men all due respect to your husband tend to get a bit touchy when it comes to their mothers so I think in this instance you should take what he says with a pinch of salt. Cause it’s most definitely weird
I think the fact she didn’t mention it to you shows she knows what she’s doing is weird.
You’re right, I would go absolutely ballistic if my mother in law did this. I don’t know why your husband is trying to justify this behaviour.
I would not be ok with that. It crosses many boundaries, disrespects you and the fact she didn’t tell you makes it even more suspicious. I honestly consider it harassment even if it was done with good intentions. I’m glad you found out!
This for sure should have been a conversation, you’re not overreacting
This can't be real
Sorry but absolutely not! No one and I mean no one should be putting their nipple in your babies mouth without consent from you! I’m in shock your husband is okay with this!
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She “breastfed” my baby
I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting, but I just found out my MIL has been putting my daughter to her breast whenever she watches her. Apparently, the first time my baby wouldn’t stop crying, she tried it to see if she would calm down. When I confronted her, she said she wasn’t actually breastfeeding her because she doesn’t produce milk anymore and was just trying to soothe her. What makes it worse is that she apparently did it more than once, and when I asked why she never thought to tell me, she said she didn’t think I would have a problem with it since there was no milk involved. My husband thinks I’m making it weird and says his mom raised children before and knows what she’s doing. His mom also thinks I’m being disrespectful by making her feel ashamed of something she considers natural.
I don’t care how anyone feels about breastfeeding, but am I wrong for thinking nobody should be putting their breast in my baby’s mouth without my permission, regardless of whether they’re producing milk?
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