Tips on parenting during the night for newborns?

Hi everyone! My husband goes back to work on Monday and our LO will be 3 weeks old. He has a long commute down the motorway and leaves at 6:30 in the morning, so I really want to balance him supporting the nights and allowing me some sleep, whilst also making sure he’s able to work full-time and commute safely whilst I’ll be at home. I was wondering if anyone had any tips or routines for the parents that kept them sane? Appreciate there is no routine for LO right now, but any tips or things that worked well for others, that means we can work together efficiently would be amazing!

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Hey, we had similar worries especially with my husband having to drive an hour to work. We used to try plan that he'd take the baby for an hour or two (it was hard to do more as I was BFing and baby had bad reflux so ate like every 90 mins the first 3 months!) and I'd nap with earplugs, so like 7-9pm or 4-6am, just to make sure I got a good bit of sleep around him having to go to work! Id also ask family to come over during the day so I could have a nap for an hour, don't be afraid to ask for help if you have someone!x

Splitting shifts really helped us. I’d go to bed super early and my partner would be with the baby until 12/1-ish. We were combo feeding. If I was worried about my supply dropping then I would ask him to wake me for feeds, but then take the baby back for changes and settling. Then I’d take over once his shift was over and he’s sleep until he needed to get up for work. We were still both sleep deprived and knackered, but we got through it. I also could never nap in the day, but I heard this helped people so much.

It’s tough when you’re in it, but I promise you do get out of it!

We done split shifts. I use to sleep 10-3am and my partner slept 3-8. We did baby shift downstairs so we wasn’t disturbing the person that slept. Once the baby wasn’t waking up every 2-3 hours we went back up stairs and alternated waking.
Pregnant again and will do slip shifts but will do it a bit earlier as we have a toddler now who’s up by 6.30am

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