Marriage problems

Just be patient ❤️❤️❤️

Hi! I’m definitely going through the same thing, and I know many couples experience difficult seasons after birth. So you’re not alone❤️thinking about leaving is honestly the last thing anyone wants to ever think about, I totally get it! I would suggest to exercise all options before coming to any conclusion. For example, I’m a true believer in therapy/counseling. I’d suggest you both go individually and together as a couple because many arguments stem from a place of miscommunication and misunderstanding. We often forget that us and our partners should be a team and work together against the problem - not us vs them vs the problem. Personally, I’m learning to not engage in any conversation when I’m feeling any negative emotion. Rather, take a breather and revisit the topic later. It’s a really difficult season that seems like it may never end, but I’m hoping you and your husband can be patient and understanding of one another and see the light at the end of the tunnel💗

My husband and I did marriage counselling while I was pregnant to prepare for the stress. We found it really helpful. It improved our communication and prepared us for some of the hard moments. Since you have a little one at home, doing it virtually might be a good idea if that's possible for you.

Hi, my husband and me were dealing with it in major ways. Both of us were dealing with postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety and both of us have strong tempers too at that so we were headbutting so much it was a disgrace. It's even worse because we had 3 babies in 3 years. Now our relationship is extremely strong and stable. If my advice helps at all, don't even think about divorce in the first 1-2 years after baby's birth unless there are obvious things like cheating or abuse. Otherwise it literally comes down to stress, misunderstandings, miscommunication and "doing it for the first time". It's no secret for anyone that the first couple years of a baby's life are amongst the most challenging ones and it stretches the relationship extremely thin sometimes. What counts at the end of the day is how you navigate through feeling tired, irritable and frustrated and you really have to A) try to understand the other and appreciate their own efforts openly and validate their feelings and

B) learn how to communicate in a way that's not defensive or accusing because that will only ever lead to worsening fights. You'll get there eventually. If you make it until 2 years of baby's age you will see you grew even stronger as a couple and you will be thankful to yourselves that you got through it

By the way, my third baby is 3 months old and the difficulty of juggling everything plus the sleepless nights etc etc is unimaginable but our fights don't explode anymore like they used to and we always remind each other that this third baby will also outgrow this baby stage and we will sleep again and have more peace again. Sending love xx

I definitely think it rough patch.
So much have changed in the past 3 weeks. From lack of sleep, new human extra. My husband has told me how useless he feels with newborn since all his need are meet by me. No one enjoys feeling that. Just remember you guys are a team not enemies.