Any suggestions on how to not argue so much with your partner during the first two years of your kids life? We’re having a lot of issues with responsibilities and it feeling uneven for both people.
We both work from home and are doing different things to work on our careers. Because I don’t work nearly as much as he does, I take on more of the child related responsibilities. I also apparently boss him around, but I also feel like he doesn’t take initiative so I just feel like I’m being a household manager and I don’t mind managing things if he doesn’t mind letting me manage it, but he doesn’t like it but at the same time because he works more than me he does expect me to do more child related things, but doesn’t like when I take over either.
I’m at a loss of what to do and how to fix this.
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My husband and I have a couple code words, which we discuss when things are calm, like while on a date, or after the kids are in bed for the night. One of them, for example, is "perfect vacuum." In science terms, it means zero pressure, so if I say "perfect vacuum" to my husband, it means I'd appreciate his help at that moment, but no pressure if he is busy with work things, etc.
I have the same issue at home.. he doesn't take initiative on his own unless I tell him and it's usually me reaching my breaking point every 3-4th day and so tired to be asking more of his involvement.. it's been tough and I feel this immense irritation even while arguing and telling him stuff. Sometimes it just feels easier to not have him around so as to not have expectations.
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Any suggestions on how to not argue so much with your partner during the first two years of your kids life? We’re having a lot of issues with responsibilities and it feeling uneven for both people.
We both work from home and are doing different things to work on our careers. Because I don’t work nearly as much as he does, I take on more of the child related responsibilities. I also apparently boss him around, but I also feel like he doesn’t take initiative so I just feel like I’m being a household manager and I don’t mind managing things if he doesn’t mind letting me manage it, but he doesn’t like it but at the same time because he works more than me he does expect me to do more child related things, but doesn’t like when I take over either.
I’m at a loss of what to do and how to fix this.
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