Divorce
I’m thinking of divorcing my husband. I have been with him for 6 years and married for 2 years. He is a huge mama’s boy and prior to marriage made me beg for help with anything. I saw all the red flags but kept being told he promised me he would work on it and change and show up more. I don’t ask for much, at all. I set the bar so low he can’t even do the bare minimum. He wasn’t there for me my entire pregnancy, and when my water broke he was mad it broke on the day a new video game came out. I was left alone in the hospital room too cause he kept saying he couldn’t stay in there cause he was bored. He didn’t help me postpartum and my family lives out of state so I spent my whole postpartum alone basically. He doesn’t like helping with our son and he’s 15 months old and when he gets home from work I ask him to play with our son while I cook or clean up and to give me a breather and he complains the whole time and says he’s bored & doesn’t know what to do with him. I don’t know if he will ever change he keeps telling me he will but I don’t know what to do
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Re read your post and you have your answer. Divorce is hard and expensive but I'm very glad I am divorced and very happy now and lucky to have 0 involvement from my ex.
Privately start saving and talk to a solicitor. Make a plan financially and prepare mentally for him to ask for weekends/50:50 custody (with his mother's help). He may ask for 50:50 to avoid child support then just let his mother take care of your son.
Would you consider marriage counselling? We have started counselling & I’ve already seen a massive change in our relationship; we understand each other more & with that, know how to support each other whilst addressing and changing the way we show up for each other
With that said, you absolutely deserve a husband and a father that will show up for you. To think that you’ve had to experience pregnancy, birth and PP with little physical and emotional support, is absolutely awful & there is no excusing his lack of action. If you think divorce is the right call but are scared to take the leap, trust yourself to do it & come out on top. You’ve raised a child, who I bet is thriving, with very little support so you have all the strength to choose what’s best for you. I’m really sorry you are going through this, no mother should have to face this stage of life alone ❤️
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Divorce
I’m thinking of divorcing my husband. I have been with him for 6 years and married for 2 years. He is a huge mama’s boy and prior to marriage made me beg for help with anything. I saw all the red flags but kept being told he promised me he would work on it and change and show up more. I don’t ask for much, at all. I set the bar so low he can’t even do the bare minimum. He wasn’t there for me my entire pregnancy, and when my water broke he was mad it broke on the day a new video game came out. I was left alone in the hospital room too cause he kept saying he couldn’t stay in there cause he was bored. He didn’t help me postpartum and my family lives out of state so I spent my whole postpartum alone basically. He doesn’t like helping with our son and he’s 15 months old and when he gets home from work I ask him to play with our son while I cook or clean up and to give me a breather and he complains the whole time and says he’s bored & doesn’t know what to do with him. I don’t know if he will ever change he keeps telling me he will but I don’t know what to do
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