My husband seems jealous of baby when I breastfeed

I know this sounds silly but I feel as though my husband is jealous of my baby when I breastfeed him.

I’m 6 weeks postpartum and every time I feed our son he says things like “he’s a greedy little sod” “maybe we should get formula so he’s not on your boob as much” and he says it at most feeds which is very irritating.

We were intimate last night and I didn’t want him to touch them and he got funny and said they were his first?!? Sorry for too much info but I don’t want his mouth there when I’m breastfeeding it just doesn’t appeal to me.


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He is so sick

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Men are so mentally ill 😭

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That is literally disgusting wtaf he’s tapped in the head. Sick

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OK I wouldnt be too harsh with it but I do keep my husband from messing with my boobs in any capacity because I want them to stay clean for our daughter. I see it the same as touching a baby bottle nipple. You just don't do that! So yeah my boobs are off limits until I wean and every time my husband and I cuddle I have to remind him. I'm not angry or mean about it though although it bugs me. Men like boobs and I'm his wife so I get why he acts like they're his but they just aren't his right now. I remind him that women have them for nursing babies, not necessarily for men's enjoyment.

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Thank you girls. I thought I was overreacting. He’s already said Monday he’s going to buy the milk. I don’t want to give formula yet but feeling pressure as he wants my boobs back to himself. Things I really don’t need to worrying about

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Hi, this is insanely weird. Ask your husband why he is sexualizing your infant breastfeeding ? He cannot force you to formula feed and you shouldn’t. The man needs to go to therapy or something….
Also you’re 6 weeks postpartum. Why does this man have energy for any physical intimacy.

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And someone who’s really struggled to breastfeed I found this really upsetting. My husband went to so many appointments with lactation specialists and Infant feeding team is to help me, and because he knew that was what was best for our children.

I feel so angry at the thought of your husband trying to deprive your child of breastmilk because he’s an immature selfish fuck wit.

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Tell him how much formula is and tell him he'd have to pay for it. That should change his mind

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I stopped breastfeeding 3 years ago and still can't have anyone touching my nipples, so that part is totally normal. But him being jealous and making those comments is a red flag. They are your breasts and nipples, not his. He needs to get a grip.

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Honestly girls I’ve been in tears today about it. I’ve even said I would pump and express more instead… I just feel so disgusted with him. I feel like I’m going crazy. We argued today because he tried to deeply kiss me while I’m breastfeeding also. At this point I just want to move out and be with my son alone

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You seem like a really nice woman and a good mother. You deserve so much more! Please don’t let this POS push you to formula. You are doing great by the sounds of it. Cluster feeding is sooo hard! All worth it in the end though, you’re doing what’s best for you and your child. Don’t let any man under any circumstances ruin that. Please!

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My husband seems jealous of baby when I breastfeed

I know this sounds silly but I feel as though my husband is jealous of my baby when I breastfeed him.

I’m 6 weeks postpartum and every time I feed our son he says things like “he’s a greedy little sod” “maybe we should get formula so he’s not on your boob as much” and he says it at most feeds which is very irritating.

We were intimate last night and I didn’t want him to touch them and he got funny and said they were his first?!? Sorry for too much info but I don’t want his mouth there when I’m breastfeeding it just doesn’t appeal to me.


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