Loss of my son

So as most of you know I lost my son a week ago at full term he was still born due to his umbilical cord and I had gotten this big elephant toy as a gift for him so after I lost him I decided to keep that one thing with me and now I carry it around and keep it with me always as my Oliver elephant (my sons name) and it helps me cope with what happened ... does anyone else with a loss use an item from Their baby to cope or help? The photo was a silly picture for my mom lol .

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I don’t mean to be nosy but what happened with the umbilical cord? And I’m sorry for your loss

I’m sorry for your loss mama, I don’t understand your pain but just know you’re in my prayers and your little man is always watching over you . If you ever just need to talk you can always message me .

I'm so sorry for your loss. That has to be heartbreaking and so traumatic. I can't even begin to imagine and I really hope you get your rainbow baby. To answer your question though, my cousin had a still born and there was a quilt that her mother made and embroidered the name on for the baby. She has a little "shrine" with photos of the ultrasounds and the baby still at birth as well as the quilt all in a shadow box. I will add you to my prayer list and I pray that you can have a rainbow baby that can help fill the void that was created by your loss.

I’m so sorry for your loss!

Im so sorry for your loss prayers to you mama !!!

I cannot begin to imagine your pain and I am so heartbroken for your loss. Keeping you in my prayers ❤️

I bought a glass lighted curio cabinet and I have my sons things in it. We had him cremated so his urn is in it as well. I may sound like a weirdo but I'm convinced he visits us in the summer as a white butterfly. My daughter will chase him and talk to him. Everyone finds their way to cope. Squeeze your elephant momma! Here if u need to talk!

So sorry for your loss . It’s always hard for me to read about stillborns. I had one as well I was full term & cord was not wrapped around babies neck .
What I did was took her ashes with me everywhere until I got the Urn. Give yourself time to grieve . I am still grieving . I’ll message you to check on you

Awe momma.. my heart hurts for you. I think your elephant is precious! I have a couple friends who would get the name and a lil picture of something tattooed on their wrist or hand.. 💕 I will be praying for you love ❤️ && I hope you keep talking about your son, it helps to let it out 💗

I’m so sorry for your loss love... I pray that you reunite with his soul one day in the future 💙 he will be back!

So very sorry!😢🙏🏼

I’m SOO sorry for your loss. My deep condolences. Prayers on your way for healing process ❤️

I am so sorry for your loss ive had two miscarriages and wish I had something to hold on to ! Stay strong

This is heartbreaking I am so sorry for your loss 😔

I carried my sons blanket because it smelled like him and a build a bear with his clothes on...I did it for a long time. Sometimes I pull them out and hold them then put them up.

Condolences from my family to yours ❤️ heart 💜💙.

My heart is with you. I couldn’t imagine what you went/are going through.❤️ God has a plan! I know this!!🙂

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bit of a rant sorry but some one other than my family need to hear this lol

so yeah i wasn't bothered about the glocus test heard mixed reviews but I found the drink very lovely went down so nice..Didn't feel dizzy or anything with it so I was convinced I didnt have diabetes but then started over thinking maybe my body is just so used to sugar then the results came in fasting was under the drink was over 1% and the hour after was under so I thought yeoo I dont have it until I got a phone call to explain my results and there is was sitting on the phone hearing them dreaded words you have diabetes I found it funny because it was only 1% will fast forward to a week later it isnt bloody funny what so ever.
Having to time breakfast lunch and dinners is so hard...I never ate a lunch instead I would have a 4 pack of like mars bars and a bottle of coke and I thought I was doing a good thing by changing the coke to zero sugar lol

so onto the 3rd day of having to use the glocus monitor and that thing is my worst enemy that wee needle is bloody sore im like a big child when ive to do the finger prick eye closed counting to 3 and always catch my self of guard when pricking my finger lol.
Honestly if you asked me last night after my dinner would I just go f*** this and walk away yes I would and I would walk away with my middle finger up to diabetes lol but then after my wee tantrum and an out burst of tears my partner finally calmed me down as he seen how hard it was for me and how hungry I was.
so long story short I am a very very very plain eater I dont eat veg never eat fruit and if I do its apples bananas and grapes just....planning out meals I was sticking to what I usually have and 1 meal tipped me over the edge as I cant have it as im over the line god sake so now I have to sit with my partner and plan out meals that I never usually eat but will benefit me im just so glad he is a chef and is so helpful on what I can have what I cant and portion size...
So the running joke that used to happen in my parents house once 1 person went on a diet or a healthy eating we all did which annoyed me and I look back on it now and go omg its happening in my family too lol though I think its going to benefit my self and my little family and will put into practice for when little one is here.
Every one keep me in your prayers ive only 13 weeks to go but I can do this and let's hope I loose a bit of weight instead of gaining weight lol.

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