Loss of my son

So as most of you know I lost my son a week ago at full term he was still born due to his umbilical cord and I had gotten this big elephant toy as a gift for him so after I lost him I decided to keep that one thing with me and now I carry it around and keep it with me always as my Oliver elephant (my sons name) and it helps me cope with what happened ... does anyone else with a loss use an item from Their baby to cope or help? The photo was a silly picture for my mom lol .

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I don’t mean to be nosy but what happened with the umbilical cord? And I’m sorry for your loss

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I’m sorry for your loss mama, I don’t understand your pain but just know you’re in my prayers and your little man is always watching over you . If you ever just need to talk you can always message me .

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I'm so sorry for your loss. That has to be heartbreaking and so traumatic. I can't even begin to imagine and I really hope you get your rainbow baby. To answer your question though, my cousin had a still born and there was a quilt that her mother made and embroidered the name on for the baby. She has a little "shrine" with photos of the ultrasounds and the baby still at birth as well as the quilt all in a shadow box. I will add you to my prayer list and I pray that you can have a rainbow baby that can help fill the void that was created by your loss.

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I’m so sorry for your loss!

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Im so sorry for your loss prayers to you mama !!!

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I cannot begin to imagine your pain and I am so heartbroken for your loss. Keeping you in my prayers ❤️

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I bought a glass lighted curio cabinet and I have my sons things in it. We had him cremated so his urn is in it as well. I may sound like a weirdo but I'm convinced he visits us in the summer as a white butterfly. My daughter will chase him and talk to him. Everyone finds their way to cope. Squeeze your elephant momma! Here if u need to talk!

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So sorry for your loss . It’s always hard for me to read about stillborns. I had one as well I was full term & cord was not wrapped around babies neck .
What I did was took her ashes with me everywhere until I got the Urn. Give yourself time to grieve . I am still grieving . I’ll message you to check on you

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Awe momma.. my heart hurts for you. I think your elephant is precious! I have a couple friends who would get the name and a lil picture of something tattooed on their wrist or hand.. 💕 I will be praying for you love ❤️ && I hope you keep talking about your son, it helps to let it out 💗

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I’m so sorry for your loss love... I pray that you reunite with his soul one day in the future 💙 he will be back!

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So very sorry!😢🙏🏼

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I’m SOO sorry for your loss. My deep condolences. Prayers on your way for healing process ❤️

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I am so sorry for your loss ive had two miscarriages and wish I had something to hold on to ! Stay strong

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This is heartbreaking I am so sorry for your loss 😔

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I carried my sons blanket because it smelled like him and a build a bear with his clothes on...I did it for a long time. Sometimes I pull them out and hold them then put them up.

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Condolences from my family to yours ❤️ heart 💜💙.

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My heart is with you. I couldn’t imagine what you went/are going through.❤️ God has a plan! I know this!!🙂

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