Loss of my son

So as most of you know I lost my son a week ago at full term he was still born due to his umbilical cord and I had gotten this big elephant toy as a gift for him so after I lost him I decided to keep that one thing with me and now I carry it around and keep it with me always as my Oliver elephant (my sons name) and it helps me cope with what happened ... does anyone else with a loss use an item from Their baby to cope or help? The photo was a silly picture for my mom lol .
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My heart is with you. I couldn’t imagine what you went/are going through.❤️ God has a plan! I know this!!🙂

Condolences from my family to yours ❤️ heart 💜💙.

I carried my sons blanket because it smelled like him and a build a bear with his clothes on...I did it for a long time. Sometimes I pull them out and hold them then put them up.

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I have a blanket too and his clothes :/ I’m scared to put them in like a shadow box because I can cuddle the Clothes and it smells Like him and in a shadow box I can’t :(

I'm sorry ❤❤ after almost 13 yrs my sons smell is basically nonexistent now but I still cuddle them when I need.

This is heartbreaking I am so sorry for your loss 😔

I am so sorry for your loss ive had two miscarriages and wish I had something to hold on to ! Stay strong

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I’m so sorry for your losses as well 😥🥰

I’m SOO sorry for your loss. My deep condolences. Prayers on your way for healing process ❤️

So very sorry!😢🙏🏼

I’m so sorry for your loss love... I pray that you reunite with his soul one day in the future 💙 he will be back!

Awe momma.. my heart hurts for you. I think your elephant is precious! I have a couple friends who would get the name and a lil picture of something tattooed on their wrist or hand.. 💕 I will be praying for you love ❤️ && I hope you keep talking about your son, it helps to let it out 💗

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Thank you for your kindness ❤️

I’m hoping to get a tattoo in his honor with my Fiancé at some point 🥰 I love my elephant so much ❤️

I have the blanket my mom made for my daughter and a personalized elephant stuffie. Along with tons of pictures and memorabilia from the hospital. I feel like knowing her things are close to me helps a lot ❤️

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Same here I have a blanket my mom Made For him that I wrapped Myself in it has pictures of his sonograms on it and stuff and I do believe having the items helps the coping 🥺🥰

So sorry for your loss . It’s always hard for me to read about stillborns. I had one as well I was full term & cord was not wrapped around babies neck . What I did was took her ashes with me everywhere until I got the Urn. Give yourself time to grieve . I am still grieving . I’ll message you to check on you

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I’m very sorry for your loss as well I’m so happy you got a sweet baby rainbow ❤️ I hope to get mine someday 🥰 and I will as well talk with you!

I bought a glass lighted curio cabinet and I have my sons things in it. We had him cremated so his urn is in it as well. I may sound like a weirdo but I'm convinced he visits us in the summer as a white butterfly. My daughter will chase him and talk to him. Everyone finds their way to cope. Squeeze your elephant momma! Here if u need to talk!

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I find that beautiful for the butterfly I definitely believe that! I love my elephant so much 😓 and I love the cabinet idea we might set up a little shelf or something with some of his things or a box or something i like all the different things people do and use ! ❤️

I cannot begin to imagine your pain and I am so heartbroken for your loss. Keeping you in my prayers ❤️

Im so sorry for your loss prayers to you mama !!!

I’m so sorry for your loss!

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I'm so sorry for your loss. That has to be heartbreaking and so traumatic. I can't even begin to imagine and I really hope you get your rainbow baby. To answer your question though, my cousin had a still born and there was a quilt that her mother made and embroidered the name on for the baby. She has a little "shrine" with photos of the ultrasounds and the baby still at birth as well as the quilt all in a shadow box. I will add you to my prayer list and I pray that you can have a rainbow baby that can help fill the void that was created by your loss.

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That’s so beautiful I’ve heard of shadowboxes I think we might make one later and thank you so much I pray we do get a rainbow baby we really want a child . It’s harder some days than others I pray for you and also your cousin as well ❤️❤️🥰

I’m sorry for your loss mama, I don’t understand your pain but just know you’re in my prayers and your little man is always watching over you . If you ever just need to talk you can always message me .

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Thank you for your kindness 🥰❤️ you are in my prayers also

I don’t mean to be nosy but what happened with the umbilical cord? And I’m sorry for your loss

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More than likely it got wrapped around his neck.. I’ve heard of that many times .

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