Mom commented on my infertility
We tried for 3 years to have a baby - a little over one year on fertility drugs. 9 months after we’d given up and I stopped taking the drugs, I got pregnant with our son due in October.
I was talking to my mom about not sleeping a lot because he’s kicking all night. I don’t remember word for word what she said but it was something like “You’re probably not going to be able to do this again so quit bitching and enjoy it.”
Intellectually I agree, it’s very unlikely we will be able to get pregnant again. But why throw it in my face like that? I’m uncomfortable and hormonal and I wanted to talk to my mom about it (she’s the only woman in the family without a fertility problem).
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I think your mum might be wrong. I’ve heard many stories about people struggling for years but then getting pregnant straight after giving birth as you are very fertile first few months. So don’t listen to her
Grandma of my husband was struggling with fertility for 16 years (and it was ages ago, she is 85 now) and then she had my mother in law at 36 and a year later got pregnant again
This just hurts my heart that your mother would say that to you. Nobody can play God so you never know, you may get pregnant again and you may not. But in all honesty the whole pregnancy experience is you bitching about how uncomfortable you are and the kicking but then crying happy tears because it’s so amazing. Sadly now you know who not to complain too 🤷🏻♀️
It wasn’t a nice comment at all. We are allowed to moan!!! As joyous as becoming a mother is it’s still not nice when you can’t sleep at night because babba decides it’s party time. And she may well be wrong anyway, I hear so many woman who thought they were infertile go on to have multiple babies x
Mums are sometimes very blunt 🙈 you probably are taking it badly due to hormones as well, can you just let her know how it made you feel? And just because you struggled to get pregnant does not mean you have to enjoy pregnancy!! ❤️ I defo didnt 😂 (well some of it I did but there were a lot of things I didn’t like too)
After having a baby you tend to be more fertile, so it will most likely happen again for you❤️x
Ugh I would be sassy af back to her. I kinda get the same from my mom. I tried for two and a half years and was going through fertility treatments for a lot of that time and I finally got pregnant and now she’s 7 months and my mother always comments things like “I was so sure you wouldn’t be able to do it” or “I would have bet that you weren’t going to get to have kids” and I hate that she keeps mentioning that she didn’t believe in me when I tried my hardest and gave it my everything to make it happen. It’s disheartening. I did get after her the other day for it, so I hope she realizes.
So my first baby my story was similar then we tried for another baby and I said no fertility stuff if it happens it happens and it did after about six months or so of trying then bam out of nowhere I got pregnant at 41 with my third without any planning or trying or stressing so people can’t make those kinds of comments!!!!!
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